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... so she can have "alone time" for about a week. We've had some difficult talks over the past week. She says I don't make her happy. She says I'm like "food with no nutrients." She says we have nothing in common. She says other people represent "life" and I represent "death." She says I give her a bottomless black hole in her soul.
She's obviously not happy with me but I want to make it work. We've been married 8 years. I love her. I know this sounds really screwed up, but should I go on the week long vacation by myself and give her some time?
... so she can have "alone time" for about a week. We've had some difficult talks over the past week. She says I don't make her happy. She says I'm like "food with no nutrients." She says we have nothing in common. She says other people represent "life" and I represent "death." She says I give her a bottomless black hole in her soul.
She's obviously not happy with me but I want to make it work. We've been married 8 years. I love her. Should I go on the week long vacation by myself and give her some time?
Sometimes a little space and distance can really be helpful when couples are struggling.
Don't think you should take a real vacation, but can you go stay at a friends house, or perhaps to visit some family?
And since you really want to make it work - go out first thing in the morning and buy a copy of the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
Read it during your week apart.
You HAVE to give this book a shot - it can make all the difference in a marriage that is struggling
... so she can have "alone time" for about a week. We've had some difficult talks over the past week. She says I don't make her happy. She says I'm like "food with no nutrients." She says we have nothing in common. She says other people represent "life" and I represent "death." She says I give her a bottomless black hole in her soul.
She's obviously not happy with me but I want to make it work. We've been married 8 years. I love her. I know this sounds really screwed up, but should I go on the week long vacation by myself and give her some time?
Perhaps she needs to go on the vacation for a change of scenery
and heart... given those rather negative comments.
I second that JosephV55, she needs the vacation maybe more than the OP...but then again maybe she wants the house, a familiar place to herself...That decision is really between the two of you. But if she needs a week, she's at least not just leaving the relationship, she's taking time to think...
I second that JosephV55, she needs the vacation maybe more than the OP...but then again maybe she wants the house, a familiar place to herself...That decision is really between the two of you. But if she needs a week, she's at least not just leaving the relationship, she's taking time to think...
I think you are right - she likely wants to be in her own familiar surroundings to give herself time to think and not be distracted.
I think the essence of it is I don't love her hometown as much as she does. And now she's finding other people (mostly coworkers) who give her a lot more satisfaction than I do. I'm in a real pickle here.
I hope for your sake she doesn't have a ulterior motive
eg. the pool boy will be visiting her regularly while you are away
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