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More then likey not. I know that sounds selfish but I love being active & outside as much as possible. I was interested in one women a while back who had fibromyalgia I knew she liked me but I also knew it would be impossible for us to do some of the things I like doing. I believed there was no point in wasting each others time. That might sound lame but it's how I felt about it & still do.
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To be honest, I'd definitely think twice about it, but it would depend on a lot of factors. If I really liked her as a person her disability might not even matter. This may sound shallow, but I'd probably find anxiety or something more easy to deal with than someone in a wheelchair. Not that I look down on people in cheelchairs (well in a literal sense, I do ) it's just it would be such a pain doing things.
A lot of men say they are 'outdoors man' and that's why they don't want disabled, but really just don't want disabled!
A lot of disabled people are outdoors people. Just to give an example, I know a woman who is in a wheelchair and mute, who's a professional skier. It's important not to assume that someone has an inactive lifestyle just because they are physically disabled in some way.
A lot of disabled people are outdoors people. Just to give an example, I know a woman who is in a wheelchair and mute, who's a professional skier. It's important not to assume that someone has an inactive lifestyle just because they are physically disabled in some way.
OK. So if they can ski what is the males excuse why they still don't want disabled? Outdoors excuse is not going to fly anymore, apparently.
I don't assume it will go all wrong, but I would be more careful with someone who is mentally ill, especially if I sense they have been abused. As someone who has been abused, I know that it is common for survivors to have messed up boundaries and communication. I would expect them to be just as careful going into the relationship with me. In other words, I would give them a chance, but it would take longer for me to develop trust.
OK. So if they can ski what is the males excuse why they still don't want disabled? Outdoors excuse is not going to fly anymore, apparently.
That's my point. I don't know if it's through misconception or intentional, but I am pointing out that being athletic and disabled are not mutually exclusive.
I don't assume it will go all wrong, but I would be more careful with someone who is mentally ill, especially if I sense they have been abused. As someone who has been abused, I know that it is common for survivors to have messed up boundaries and communication. I would expect them to be just as careful going into the relationship with me. In other words, I would give them a chance, but it would take longer for me to develop trust.
Okay I understand that makes sense. most of the males i ever came across calls it a 'headache' or 'red flags' if you're mentally ill or have any kinds of problems. they have all kinds of names for you.
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) it's just it would be such a pain doing things.
