bf always in a rush to make me leave. why? (women, husband)
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You could be right, I did put disclaimers in my posts.
I guess only the OP and her b/f know for sure.
I've got Aspergers tho, and I know that I can be a pain in the ass to be with, even if I don't mean to be.
I don't want to hurt anyone, but I don't process information in the same way as others, therefore my response might be different.
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ
I'll tell you the definite name of the "disease" - a garden-variety jerk.
Sounds like he's trying to maintain a balanced life between you, his friends, his job/business/school work etc. 2X a week for 3-4 hours + a sleepover isn't a lot of time, but it's also not unreasonable if you're not living together.
If it bothers you, talk to him, but people are set in their ways - if he's trying to push you out at 10 in the morning and you want him to want you more, then this relationship is not going to work.
well he's obviously using you for sex and a good time, when it's over he wants you gone asap. You continue to put up with it, so he sees no reason to treat you any better.
well he's obviously using you for sex and a good time, when it's over he wants you gone asap. You continue to put up with it, so he sees no reason to treat you any better.
i have tried to let it not bother me but it grates on me. and im really annoyed. do i have the right to be? how should i deal with this?
That sounds like a f**k buddy, not a boyfriend. Do yourself a favor and dump him. Find someone who appreciates your company. This is coming from a guy, btw.
At the very least, he could act like he hates to see you go. I mean, "Ten oclock, time to go..." wtf is that?! Even if you're not having sex, I would not treat a freind like that. (and unless you're "taking care of his needs" then a friend is all you are after five months)
Last edited by Eastern Roamer; 03-22-2012 at 09:51 AM..
Reason: They're not doing it yet?
Wow, that's really rude behavior, and personally, I wouldn't put up with it for a nanosecond.
I don't know what's going on in your boyfriend's mind. If this bothers you, you need to come right out and tell him how you feel rather than hypothesizing. We're just strangers. The only thing we can do is give you our opinions, but that won't be fact.
If your gut tells you that something's off, something is off. How old are the two of you? When did you first start sleeping together? Is it understood that the two of you have an exclusive relationship? Does he take you out to restaurants and movies (on dates)? Because this sounds more like a "hook up" than a bonafide relationship.
That's what it sounds like to me, too. It's why it's important to date and really have evidence you are loved before sleeping together.
Because every odd behaviour has to have a psychological diagnosis doesn't it
If you don't like then tell him. If he won't change then either put up with it or dump him. It really isn't that complicated.
I really agree with this. Whatever the reason or justifications, if YOU are this bothered now, you are likely to get more bothered as time goes on and resentment will build.
I would suggest finding someone who shares your need for lounging and being less rigid.
Even if there isn't any sex, he apparently is not making her happy. Main point, in my opinion. She's not happy. She should take off and find someone who will make her feel welcome and loved.
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