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Old 03-22-2012, 05:54 PM
 
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You are talking in circles. What is "this stuff" exactly?
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Old 03-22-2012, 06:21 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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There are myriad reasons why it is hard for some people in the dating world. Race, religion, children, divorce, weight, looks, etc. The way I see it - if someone doesn't want to be with you because of your race - do you really want to be with that person? Life is full of challenges. You can either tackle them head on and find a way to succeed or you can succumb to them. It's okay to vent about it from time to time - and it's okay to give in to feeling upset about it - but nobody likes to date a complainer - no matter what your race, height, weight, etc. Just my 2 cents.
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Old 03-22-2012, 06:24 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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It happens a lot, not just for dating failures, but for life in general.
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Old 03-22-2012, 06:36 PM
 
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There are myriad reasons why it is hard for some people in the dating world. Race, religion, children, divorce, weight, looks, etc. The way I see it - if someone doesn't want to be with you because of your race - do you really want to be with that person? Life is full of challenges. You can either tackle them head on and find a way to succeed or you can succumb to them. It's okay to vent about it from time to time - and it's okay to give in to feeling upset about it - but nobody likes to date a complainer - no matter what your race, height, weight, etc. Just my 2 cents.
There are always people who will go out with your regardless of race. It is a numbers game to me.
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Old 03-22-2012, 06:40 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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There are always people who will go out with your regardless of race. It is a numbers game to me.
Oh - I totally agree. I think it holds true with pretty much anything. There are always people who will go out with you regardless of your race, religion, weight, height, etc. You just have to find them.
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Old 03-22-2012, 07:01 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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You are talking in circles. What is "this stuff" exactly?
When I say 'this stuff' I mean race affects how people perceive you in social situations.
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Old 03-22-2012, 07:05 PM
 
Location: Seattle
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I wouldn't have a problem with an individual if he told me that he wasn't attracted to me. I would have a problem with an individual if he told me that he wasn't attracted to Black women.

If a person said that they weren't getting dates because they were Black (or any other race), then I would think they were crazy (unless they were the only Black person living in an otherwise homogeneous society).
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Old 03-22-2012, 08:07 PM
 
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Also, your girlfriend is Latina, it's a different thing with Latinas, they are a minority themselves so they would be more reasonable in their choices when it comes to dating a fellow minority guy, you can't expect women who are the majority to be the same way and trust me they aren't.
I think Latina and Black women are harder actually. If you look up the numbers, White F/Asian M would definitely be higher. Anyway, it's a moot point for me at least. I'm not in it to get the best I can get. I'm in it to get a nice gal and she is...

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The reason why Asian Men *do not* and can not typically date hot White Women has nothing to do with their "model" looks or lack thereof. That is absolutely ridiculous. It is because of who they are as men and how they are stereotypically portrayed as weak, feminine and nerdy, and in reality, a lot of Asian guys do fit that mold. It has nothing to do with looks.

I know plenty of average looking Asian guys, who possess no where near refined model features or a toned body, who get hot girls of every color every weekend they go out. It's because of their CHARACTER, CONFIDENCE and SOCIAL SKILLS. Nothing to do with looks my friend, if you think that's the case, you have a lot of learning to do.
Yes, I agree somewhat.

But that is among those white women who ARE OPEN to dating Asian men in the first place. It's a growing number, but there are a lot of women (not just white) who are not open to dating Asian men period.

H@ll, there's a LOT of Asian women who won't date Asian men. A LOT...
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Old 03-23-2012, 09:25 PM
 
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There are myriad reasons why it is hard for some people in the dating world. Race, religion, children, divorce, weight, looks, etc. The way I see it - if someone doesn't want to be with you because of your race - do you really want to be with that person? Life is full of challenges. You can either tackle them head on and find a way to succeed or you can succumb to them. It's okay to vent about it from time to time - and it's okay to give in to feeling upset about it - but nobody likes to date a complainer - no matter what your race, height, weight, etc. Just my 2 cents.

Bingo!
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Old 03-24-2012, 10:14 AM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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It is a simple question...
Yes, I completely and totally agree.


X people are racist sounds better than X people don't want to date me because I'm not physically attractive to them.

I'm a black female living in the US, and these threads always seem to pop up about the desirability of black women (as they do with Asian men) and these threads are always a mess.

This conversation doesn't affect me, because I don't care how desirable the concept of black women is to some on the internet. In the end I have no problem whatsoever attracting men of all different backgrounds.
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