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FWB is like tuna salad at picnic in the summer time. When it's fresh it seems like a good idea, the only thing is, there's just no telling when it will go bad, and believe me, it can!
It starts out with neither of us presumably want a relationship. Then some incredible sex enters the picture leaving one or both parties exuberant, aroused, confused. Then having a relationship with the person that just gave you that amazing orgasm starts to look good..
So yes, it really is all that bad, because honesty in relationships is definitely going through a decline nowadays.
Well after a lot of responses my friend and I decided to end our relationship with each other because of the above situations. It was alright for the time being, but it saved us from one of us being hurt kind of. I might try one night stands probably, but a relationship is out of the question, I just don't have the interest in them.
I'll also add this. Sometimes people want a FWB over a relationship because they just got out of a bad relationship. If you were with someone for several years, the last thing you need to do is jump back into another relationship. Especially when you were the one who was hurt and dumped. While you are healing, why should you be denied one of life's finest pleasures if the other person is ok with the arrangement?
Well after a lot of responses my friend and I decided to end our relationship with each other because of the above situations. It was alright for the time being, but it saved us from one of us being hurt kind of. I might try one night stands probably, but a relationship is out of the question, I just don't have the interest in them.
Why not try hookers? Then you can pay for what you want and really not have to worry about doing much more!
I'm so happy for you! And it sounds as though you learned a lot from your experience.."
I've pretty much made all the mistakes. My hope is that my posts will prevent people from having to learn the hard way like I did. Of course, I'm still learning, but I think I know more now at age 41 than I did in my 20s or 30s...I started waking up at 35. It was a rude awakening that I hope others will not have to go through.
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There are many reasons why, but essentially, it's just pretty crappy to unceremoniously dump a sex partner — someone with whom you're sharing the most intimate part of yourself — to date another person seriously. I can only imagine some of the inadvertent realizations the abandoned FWB might come to: "Oh ... so I was never good enough for a relationship after all."
Yes, this is true. Casual sex (there really is no such thing!) affects people emotionally, whether they admit it or not. There was minimal drama when I broke off from my FWB. However, there was still some hurt. He liked the status quo and I didn't.
Same problem. It does emotional damage. Too many people are walking around emotionally damaged from all the random sex they've had and they don't even realize it. I was one of them until I started waking up. Now I am able to see the damage I did and the damage that was done to me. It doesn't heal overnight, but it does heal over time if you discontinue that kind of behavior and if you do some inner work.
I think you're kidding, but, yes, my FWB relationship was dysfunctional of me, I will agree with that.
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I do think that few people can deal well and healthily with a FWB scenario, but it is a choice that some make and conduct very successfully and happily..
I agree that most people can't hanlde FWB relationships. The people who most think they are the exception are probably the ones who will handle it the most poorly.
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Of course, I have also noticed that few people are able to handle traditional relationships well, either!.
This is true. It speaks to humanity's low level of emotional intelligence, collectively speaking.
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Various types of relationships are suitable for different people and/or at different times in your life. I really don't think there is any one model for relationships that is "better" or superior - I just think that some types are better suited for some people. Humans are diverse, and so are their relationships.
Sorry, I disagree here. I don't think emotionally healthy people enter FWB relationships in the first place. There are probably a few exceptions, but not that many.
Well you went from FWB to one night stands -- so may as well spring the cash for just the sex then you won't have to worry about anything else.
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