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And for the people that do it only like once every two months, is that REALLY all about kids? And what about people whose kids are older? Like in their teens? Or what about people whose kids are grown..18, 19?
ROFL! It gets even more uncomfortable when they are in that age group! Seriously, about 3 weeks ago when I was getting the kiddo up and ready for school she said she didn't sleep well the night before, and I asked why; her reply? "Heeeee, ehhhhhh, heeeeee, ehhhhh" (aka Forrest Gump style) then followed with, "Look Mom, you and Dad need to be quieter when you guys are getting down, or at least wait till I am sound asleep! Geesh!"
MUCH more embarrasing!
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Originally Posted by midatlantic12
Sex with the same person for years and years is going to eventually get stale regardless of what one does in attempt to "spice it up."
I don't fully believe that, especially if you are both sexual by nature and are willing to be open with each other.
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Originally Posted by ChessieMom
You need to get off of the internet and talk to some real people...all you'll find here is those that are dissatisfied, and of course any fault NEVER resides with them.
Not always. I have a great sex life!
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Originally Posted by calicali01
Yea, but these women fail to realize, or take into consideration, who is paying for the house!
Um, it's 2012 not 1945! We pay for the house equally! And as a matter of fact, I paid for the house many times over before I switched jobs. (My old job paid MUCH more than currently, and WAY more than his job!)
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Originally Posted by Red On The Noodle
But yet some women have to do the shopping, food and all other, put it away, plan and cook meals, clean up said meals, laundry, clean bathroom every night, keep a spotless house, maintain her wardrobe and his, walk the dog, squeeze in a shower for herself. It's a friggin six hour second job every night and when it's over, I just want to sleep. The sex was not worth missing my few hours of rest
Then that woman should have picked a better partner. I don't have to do all that stuff nightly when I get home, we SHARE the responsibility equally. If I cook, he does dishes and cleans up, if he cooks I clean up after; he dusts (since he's taller) and I clean the floors, I take the trash out to the outside can and he takes them to the curb, we both share the yard work, but the flowers are all mine, just like cleaning out the sink after he shaves is all his. The kiddo does the laundry, and helps organize coupons and shopping lists, and hubby and I take a couples bath at least once weekly, and still have time for "happy hour" quite a few times a week.
If a woman has a full time job plus ALL the household responsibilities, then it's her fault for not getting a full partner in her relationship.
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Just curious ladies...suppose you had a testosterone charged and driven man. When he gets like this, he has a hard time controlling it. He's laying their next to you FULL TILT! He just lays there and lays there with it at MAX volume. You can see, your not stupid or blind. Do you tell him to put it away? What say you?
Why are you complaining about a life you chose? Sounds like you should have stayed single and child free like me. I get plenty of sleep.
people change. That's something you should all realize and it's the topic of the thread. I am child free and single and have lots of time now. I just had to learn the hard way.
Just curious ladies...suppose you had a testosterone charged and driven man. When he gets like this, he has a hard time controlling it. He's laying their next to you FULL TILT! He just lays there and lays there with it at MAX volume. You can see, your not stupid or blind. Do you tell him to put it away? What say you?
If I was not in the mood, I'd offer to thump it to put him out of his misery.
I have heard this. I think it would help also for men to keep in mind that women are driven by their emotional needs a bit more than men. If they are happy emotionally, they are more willing to get happy physcially.
This is pretty accurate for me.
I know the complaint in general is that women don't want sex as much after marriage but I'm wondering if that has to do with the fact that men are just as guilty. Most women I talk to wonder why the romance died after marriage....that is just as much of an issue and perhaps the two are linked?
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Yea, but these women fail to realize, or take into consideration, who is paying for the house!
Now if my husband EVER made me feel like I was some kind of servant in our home I'd remind him that yes, it IS his house and he can clean it and take care of it himself...because I'd be DONE!
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I also think some of these women get a kick out of "whipping up" on their man in their life. If he forgets to buy her Dairy Queen, she uses it against him! WTH?? LOL LOL
You have some pretty demented friends if this is really what goes on in their marriage.
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Originally Posted by Red On The Noodle
Excuse me? Who's paying for the house? This is the 21st century and women have careers and, gasp, some of us make more then the man!
But yet some women have to do the shopping, food and all other, put it away, plan and cook meals, clean up said meals, laundry, clean bathroom every night, keep a spotless house, maintain her wardrobe and his, walk the dog, squeeze in a shower for herself. It's a friggin six hour second job every night and when it's over, I just want to sleep. The sex was not worth missing my few hours of rest
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Originally Posted by calicali01
Why are you complaining about a life you chose? Sounds like you should have stayed single and child free like me. I get plenty of sleep.
I'm not sure what child free has to do with anything that Red said. I didn't see her mention children, unless you are referring to the dog that she has to walk?
Doesn't sound like she signed up to be someones slave either. I'm sure she was expecting to be a partner but maybe she'll come back and clarify for us.
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Originally Posted by GOBBARK
Just curious ladies...suppose you had a testosterone charged and driven man. When he gets like this, he has a hard time controlling it. He's laying their next to you FULL TILT! He just lays there and lays there with it at MAX volume. You can see, your not stupid or blind. Do you tell him to put it away? What say you?
And??? Just because he has a boner, she should 'service' him? Maybe he should try a little romance, a little seduction, something other than laying there like a lump on a log waiting to be serviced. I sure as heck would tell him to take a hike if he felt as though he didn't have to meet my needs as well.
why should i have sex with him, i already got all his money. if he bails i will get a whole lot more. i dont have to do jack.
its like prepaying a contractor, once u do, your project is not his priority.
mothers-- coach your sons-- do not marry w/o a prenup.
the only time i had sex life was b4 and after marriage.
Perhaps your wife found your negativity so off putting that she would rather go without sex than have it with someone with those kind of attitudes?
I know if my husand said stuff like this post, he wouldn't be getting any from me either!
Personally I think that every couple is different and the trouble starts when the drives are out of whack.
We've been married 9 years and I wish we were doing it an extra time a week. We had a ton of stuff on this past few weeks and only had sex once in the past couple of weeks. I was about ready to crawl up the walls! I think my 'drive' is slightly higher than my husband's, but not by much - we're normally about once a week, and I would be happier with twice, but it's not the end of the world.
I am worried about what will happen after the baby comes. I can't imagine going without for a month or more!
I am worried about what will happen after the baby comes. I can't imagine going without for a month or more!
If you have an active sex life now, that won't be an issue, unless due to medical necessity for healing after delivery (I had c-section deliveries and the longest we waited after the baby was about 2 weeks).
ROFL! It gets even more uncomfortable when they are in that age group! Seriously, about 3 weeks ago when I was getting the kiddo up and ready for school she said she didn't sleep well the night before, and I asked why; her reply? "Heeeee, ehhhhhh, heeeeee, ehhhhh" (aka Forrest Gump style) then followed with, "Look Mom, you and Dad need to be quieter when you guys are getting down, or at least wait till I am sound asleep! Geesh!"
MUCH more embarrasing!
I don't fully believe that, especially if you are both sexual by nature and are willing to be open with each other.
Not always. I have a great sex life!
Um, it's 2012 not 1945! We pay for the house equally! And as a matter of fact, I paid for the house many times over before I switched jobs. (My old job paid MUCH more than currently, and WAY more than his job!)
Then that woman should have picked a better partner. I don't have to do all that stuff nightly when I get home, we SHARE the responsibility equally. If I cook, he does dishes and cleans up, if he cooks I clean up after; he dusts (since he's taller) and I clean the floors, I take the trash out to the outside can and he takes them to the curb, we both share the yard work, but the flowers are all mine, just like cleaning out the sink after he shaves is all his. The kiddo does the laundry, and helps organize coupons and shopping lists, and hubby and I take a couples bath at least once weekly, and still have time for "happy hour" quite a few times a week.
If a woman has a full time job plus ALL the household responsibilities, then it's her fault for not getting a full partner in her relationship.
Two words:
COWGIRL UP!
COWGIRL UP is right! Tried to rep you AGAIN but I have several times recently!
We're not talking about people who were married for 5 years. Try 40 or more.
I responded to the OP, as below. 40 years was never even hinted at.
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Okay. Perhaps this has been discussed before, i dont know. But, it is no secret at all that men complain that once they get married, the sex drops off. A good portion of them say its like once a month, if that.
Relax with the snappiness, for Christs sakes. WTH is wrong with you..touch a nerve? I DO talk to people, lots of different people over the years. And not ONE was on the internet. You wont find not ONE thread on here with me asking this in the past. This is THE first time I EVER asked this online. EVER. This is just the usual complaint you hear when the subject comes up in conversation in REAL life..face to face.. no matter who is saying it. The bottom line is, not all..but a decent number of people, espescially men, complain about this in their marriage. So, i decided to ask about it online because of the porn thread someone started..is that okay with you? And im 45 yrs old..and I know tons of married couples. Not saying they ALL say that, but enough have over the years. Dont act like this is something new..you know darn well it isnt.!!
Really.
Snappy? Touch a nerve? Ah...no...I assure you.
The only thing I was responding to was the naivete of your post.
At 45, I cannot believe you would even ask such a question, frankly.
If women didn't have vaginas men would't talk to them. Put out or get out!
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40 years was never even hinted at. 
Ah...no...I assure you.
