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Old 03-26-2012, 10:17 PM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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I mean like...say you got the wrong signals, were too forward or something...and say kissed a girl/guy you found attractive at a party, he/she did not reciprocate your feelings? I.e. made a false move? What happened? Were they offended, shocked, did you get a black eye? lol Say you were just terrible at reading signals. I'm thinking of that scene from the Big Bang theory where Howard, maybe mistaking Penny's sympathy for a modicum of interests, leans in to kiss her and gets a fistful.

Anyone scared of ever making a move because they might do something like that? What if you're charged with sexual harassment?
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Old 03-26-2012, 10:18 PM
 
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what?

I accept it and move on. There are more women out there, and I wouldn't let it show it got to me (if at all).
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Old 03-26-2012, 10:20 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Yep. It hurts. Then you think it wasn't meant to be.
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Old 03-26-2012, 11:31 PM
 
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Not generally. I look for a "receptive attitude." Just as I was writing this, I realized that could be interpreted in more than one way. Ok, I look for more "certainty."
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Old 03-27-2012, 12:11 AM
 
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I mean like...say you got the wrong signals, were too forward or something...and say kissed a girl/guy you found attractive at a party, he/she did not reciprocate your feelings? I.e. made a false move? What happened? Were they offended, shocked, did you get a black eye? lol Say you were just terrible at reading signals. I'm thinking of that scene from the Big Bang theory where Howard, maybe mistaking Penny's sympathy for a modicum of interests, leans in to kiss her and gets a fistful.

Anyone scared of ever making a move because they might do something like that? What if you're charged with sexual harassment?
Yes. Many times. Like to hear some good ones?

A girl at a Halloween party. I thought she was flirting with me. I was drunk and so was she. We were on the floor picking stuff up and I thought she looked into my eyes. I leaned over to kiss her and she pulled away. Later, I find out her boyfriend is this big black dude that was dressed as Maximus from Gladiator with the sword and everything. I had to do some talking to get my way out of that one. Laughed it off though.

Another time, I was playing guitar for a crowd at a party. There was this one girl who was pretty hot and she was impressed. But whatever. So I went downstairs to go have a smoke. Like taking the elevator down 25 floors and it was COLD outside. And I find out she follows me and tries to bum a smoke. Well I figure I'm in. I'm also drunk. I figure wrong. She's talking and blabbing about nonsense and I start massaging her shoulder. She lets me and keeps talking. I lean in to kiss her and she gives me the cheek and KEEPS ON BLABBING! She doesn't even stop talking. LOL!

I have more of those. That is what I consider funny rejection. I was able to shake it off quickly if not then and there.

On the other side of the coin, I have developed some very strong feelings for some women I've gotten to know well, made my move, and had my feelings go unreciprocated. Actually, come to think of it, it's been every time.

That is in no way funny and equals long term hurt. I would suggest never 'making a move' on somebody who you develop feelings for unless you know they feel the same. I've been through it enough times to know sometimes regret is better than rejection.

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Old 03-27-2012, 12:33 AM
 
Location: Bellingham, WA
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I've rarely made a move that wasn't a drastically misread signal. After doing that a few times I finally just said eff it, and decided if someone is interested in me she'll have to just come right out and say it.
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Old 03-27-2012, 12:37 AM
 
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A few over the years. Mostly women who were married and either removed their ring or never wore it. WTH???? They really were too, no lying. I'd have a word or two with "mine" if she did that while going out and about!
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Old 03-27-2012, 12:45 AM
 
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Like...come into a place with no ring...hit on every man in the place. You're last because you are built the best and look the best to her. She strikes up a conversation and right at the end..."oh by the way...I'm married...my ring was hurting my finger so I took it off...here it is!"
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Old 03-27-2012, 02:24 AM
 
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I would NOT take it personally if a girl does not return a kiss the the guy if he takes the plunge.

I usually don't kiss guys who aren't my boyfriends and let the guy I'm casually dating know when he does try to kiss me.

I'm flattered and would like to kiss him back. I find him attractive. I just don't give in so quickly so fast. I sorta test the waters a little.

She may find you uber attractive and is holding back to gauge her level of trust for you. The physical part can wait.
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Old 03-27-2012, 02:28 AM
 
Location: Australia
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I've been turned down flat...but I've picked a winner more!

Their loss, I figure...!
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