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Me and my girl have been together for 3 years but when we argue she tells me to 'man up', i really hate that phrase but what I am I doing wrong?..
Hmmm this is too far out of context for me to really know, but I would say that she finds you somehow cowardly when in a confrontation.
Maybe she is used to angry, yelling men.
Or maybe she knows/suspects that you would rather ask an anonymous forum what she means, than asking her directly, and finds it girlish and unmanly behaviour.
Or maybe she's just a cow and you need to find someone who thinks you're manly just the way you are.
Sounds like she has an expectation for you, and she feels you are not reaching that expectation.
Exactly. What it means is that she is wanting you to take a stronger lead role in whatever the issue is. She prefers either you make the right decision or that you be the one to take the reigns.
I think she is using it to get under your skin during an argument. She may feel like it gives her the upper hand in the battle. My wife has her thing when arguing. She gets really nasty in a sarcastic kind of way and she knows it gets under my skin. It always gives her the upper hand.
Not true. But lets say the guy is acting like a child, you don't think women act like kids as well? Where is the female equivalent term?
It's double standard.
This post is funny! You say that "man up" doesn't mean that the guy is acting like a child - but if it did - then there is no female equivalent so therefore it's a double standard. Well, if that's not what it means - then it doesn't matter if there is no female equivalent since there is no male equivalent! Haha! That's funny! Oh - and just for the record - I'm pretty sure that the phrase "Grow up!" can be used on both men and women who are acting like a child.
The phrase "man up" seems to be what they use in commercials all the time to insinuate that a man is acting more like a woman than a man. OP - if it bothers you when your girlfriend tells you this - tell her it bothers you. If you are bothered by something in a relationship - you have to communicate it to your partner. That's how relationships work.
This post is funny! You say that "man up" doesn't mean that the guy is acting like a child - but if it did - then there is no female equivalent so therefore it's a double standard. Well, if that's not what it means - then it doesn't matter if there is no female equivalent since there is no male equivalent! Haha! That's funny! Oh - and just for the record - I'm pretty sure that the phrase "Grow up!" can be used on both men and women who are acting like a child.
The phrase "man up" seems to be what they use in commercials all the time to insinuate that a man is acting more like a woman than a man. OP - if it bothers you when your girlfriend tells you this - tell her it bothers you. If you are bothered by something in a relationship - you have to communicate it to your partner. That's how relationships work.
I'd tell her to quit taking her cues from stupid beer ads... and then I'd show her the door.
Namely the latter. She's shouting at him and seeing that it makes him uneasy or uncomfortable. Getting angry or pissed. OK Going into the fetal crouch and NOT OK!
Depends how the guy is though. I had a girlfriend that would call me a ***** and tell me to man up when I told her that I didn't like to be called an idiot or be told that I'm stupid or "below her".
I dumped her.
There are other cases though where the guy truly is a wimp and cries or just acts like a child who can't take care of himself.
To the OP, figure out which one you are and fix the problem accordingly.
OP, you haven't said much about why she says these things. That would help in assessing the situation.
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"Man up" is term that women use to make you feel inadequate when you're doing something that they don't like.
Sometimes, yes. And, sometimes, if the shoe fits, it is well deserved.
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In any case, it's completely inappropriate for a woman to call out a man and use that term unless she's talking to her SON.
Some people do this casually. So, in that regard, I agree that it is a challenge to one's manhood and that's just not nice. But it is also inappropriate for a man to act like anything less than a man. If he's a grown, able bodied man sitting on his parents couch all day playing X-Box, man up. If he is beating on his wife, man up. If he turns into a 4 year old brat every time there is conflict, man up. Don't shoot the messenger for pointing out the obvious, especially if that behavior is interfering with someone else's happiness or even their own well being.
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Bottom line, tell your girl to stop using the phrase. If she continues then dump her.
If she's just being cruel, sure, dump her. But I think some self examination is in order in any situation that makes you feel bad about yourself. Why is this happening and are you truly contributing to it or not?
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You say that "man up" doesn't mean that the guy is acting like a child - but if it did - then there is no female equivalent so therefore it's a double standard. Well, if that's not what it means - then it doesn't matter if there is no female equivalent since there is no male equivalent! Haha! That's funny! Oh - and just for the record - I'm pretty sure that the phrase "Grow up!" can be used on both men and women who are acting like a child.
OK Going into the fetal crouch and 
NOT OK!
