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still, lack of experience hurts men more than women
stop perpetuating this. you can't possibly know what has affected some women and the negative responses we've gotten. this wasn't about 'who does it hurt more men or women' anyways.
I want someone where we can have a nice easy day-to-day relationship
with (read no drama) where we can laugh about our collective foibles and
weaknesses and discuss them together... rather separately running off to
boards like this looking for advice on "how to deal with...".
"(read no drama) "
When you find a woman who is free of drama you will have found a Vulcan.
I've only been intimate with one guy so far and he was very experienced in bed compared to myself. I did realise that I needed more experience because it wasn't going so well. I think experience does matter only if your partner is highly experienced.
I think there are so many reasons why someone may not have much relationship/dating experience.
A. A woman's mother may have left the picture early in her life due to divorce, death, etc. Her father may have become ill and she may have forgone marriage/dating/relationships to care for the father, help raise her siblings, etc.
B. A man's father may have left the picture early in his life for similar reasons posted above, leaving him with the decision to forge ahead with his own life, or take on the responsobilities of the father to help the mother, maybe have to help keep a family business going, care for younger siblings, etc.
Both would probably be well versed in caring, compassion and compromise and might make excellent mates later in life as the rougher waters of ealier experiences calm, and could well come with less accumulated baggage over others who took a different path. But would invariably be "Red Flagged" given some of the guidelines discussed in this thread.
These just two examples off the top of my head, Im' sure there are plenty of other situations that migh lead one to lack so called "experience" as set forth here.
I'm noticing a pattern. For most of the men, lack of experience isn't a deal breaker. For 3 out of ever 5 women, lack of experience is a deal breaker.
Personally, I don't think lack of experience should be a deal breaker. I won't lie. I am a bit biased because I'm 25 and I have never been in a romantic relationship. Just the same, I don't think lack of experience should be the reason for a person not getting a chance at love.
A guy in my age range with no experience would make me think twice. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, I just don't have the patience for it anymore.
I find this poll interesting, guys dont mind dating or being in a relationship with a female who lacks experience in dating while women prefer men who have experience in dating and relationships. I can say a woman with less experience to the table brings less baggage and less drama which is a plus in my book while a women with experience in relationships bring drama, debt, and two kids from a previous relationship in to your relationship. Im in my late twenties and I have to say I have had a short burst of dating relationships wihch only lasted for a month or so, I just loose interest plus the drama she brings into a relationship which can hold me back from doing what I gotta do for myself. I have no time for a womans drama and peril which they are best at! Me as a guy who has went to college and graduated, trying to build a world for myself, with my up and coming finances and no debt which I dont owe and so forth and no kids. Im in my twenties and I wanna have some sort of fun and enjoy myself. I have a clean slate and I do want a girl with a clean slate like myself but thats rare these days. IF I was in a relationship with different women on the regular no doubt I would be paying some sort of child support by now! As for women who prefer dating guys with some sort of experience would you prefer married men as well and working to be a fulltime homewrecker like Alicia Keys for example?
I'm 45. If he has no experience, heck yes, that would be a huge red flag for me. If he hasn't managed to form a good relationship with a decent woman by now, something is seriously wrong with him. That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
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