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Just a question, I recently talked to an old crush of mine are Facebook, I don't have any feelings for her, but she is 20 years old and has a child. Her boyfriend hasn't been heard from since they had an argument. I thought it would be interesting to ask, would you date someone you were interested in even if they have a child? What would you do? Would you treat them any differently?
I have and I would but I would prefer not to...I can adjust when I really want to be with someone but in the long run I want to be able to get up and go when I want...children can slow things down and they must always be a priority....if a man I were dating put their child on the back burner to date me...then he isn't for me
I found that single moms can be aggressive toward single childless men. It's ridiculous, because the equation is so lopsided. It means you have to put up with the crap (and it will be there) related to their kid(s) and they don't have to put up with crap coming from your kids, because you don't have any.
I have seen this dynamic:
- more single childless women marry single dads
- than single childless men who marry single moms
I found that single moms can be aggressive toward single childless men. It's ridiculous, because the equation is so lopsided. It means you have to put up with the crap (and it will be there) related to their kid(s) and they don't have to put up with crap coming from your kids, because you don't have any.
I have seen this dynamic:
- more single childless women marry single dads
- than single childless men who marry single moms
I think you are correct. And in my case, I never had kids, very little baggage, but I like the idea of being part of something bigger than myself. The guy I am with has a 13 year old, part-time.
I am not sure I have ever ran across a single man sans kids who married a single mom...
I think you are correct. And in my case, I never had kids, very little baggage, but I like the idea of being part of something bigger than myself. The guy I am with has a 13 year old, part-time.
I am not sure I have ever ran across a single man sans kids who married a single mom...
That said, have you passed up on men without kids for that reason?
About the second item, I've run into several situations where this has happened, though not many. I knew this one single professional guy who was being chased by a lot of single women, some attractively packaged and some not so much. He married a woman with a child from a previous marriage who was only slightly better looking than those chasing him. This child was being verbally/emotionally abused by her Dad's new wife. Bring on the counseling and interventions! Sheez. Now, they have some kids of their own. To each their own.
Wow, you're a rude person aren't you. I bet you don't have much success with the women. And here robert was telling us most of the men here represent 'normal men'. What a joke. Half the men here represent the whining, sniveling, sad sacks women despise. Being online just allows you to say things you would never get away with in real life because they're so obnoxious.
I found that single moms can be aggressive toward single childless men. It's ridiculous, because the equation is so lopsided. It means you have to put up with the crap (and it will be there) related to their kid(s) and they don't have to put up with crap coming from your kids, because you don't have any.
I have seen this dynamic:
- more single childless women marry single dads
- than single childless men who marry single moms
There's also this dynamic
- the pregnant women walking down the street who is "single"
(something that's incredibly f'd up once you wrap your head around it)
No one want's to deal with a bastard, whether they're small or a teenager. There's too much a pity party for single moms. Single mother's should be shamed, and aggressively at that.
Now that i'm approaching my 30's I have to deal with lots of aggressive, loud (large & in charge) single mothers. It's amusing because it's like watching them try to buy a lotto ticket without any awareness that they're on the losing end.
I think it's good to see people get second chances, but not in this case. I won't contribute to this epidemic.
- the pregnant women walking down the street who is "single"
(something that's incredibly f'd up once you wrap your head around it)
No one want's to deal with a bastard, whether they're small or a teenager. There's too much a pity party for single moms. Single mother's should be shamed, and aggressively at that.
Now that i'm approaching my 30's I have to deal with lots of aggressive, loud (large & in charge) single mothers. It's amusing because it's like watching them try to buy a lotto ticket without any awareness that they're on the losing end.
I think it's good to see people get second chances, but not in this case. I won't contribute to this epidemic.
My answer to the OP's original question:
no.
Why would you say something like this? One thing to not want kids but.... I don't think single mothers ask for a 'pity party' they can't help it if some man they entrusted picks up and leaves them high and dry (which I remind you, is how most women end up single mothers in the first place).
I had one and she did her damnedest to raise me and I would like to see men do HALF of what she did and still come out on top. That is why they run, b/c they know that they couldn't do it if it was left all on them.
P.S. I would avoid calling some woman's child a 'bastard,' as well. Very classy.
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(which I remind you, is how most women end up single mothers in the first place). 
