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Originally Posted by Malkiel
You'd probably be surprised at the obviousness of the title if it weren't presented in the relationship forum. Yet, why shouldn't discriminating someone based on their race be classified as racism for dating?
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Because it isn't racism.
To even suggest that it should be classified as racism serves only to highlight your ignorance and lack of education, as well as your own hatred, prejudice and bigotry.
"Racialism" (yes, that was the
original word), came about in the early 1920s or thereabouts. The very first ever usage of the word came about in an attempt to express a type of prejudice based on real or alleged differences between the races.
By the 1950s or so, the word, which had been rarely used except in Academia, had been shortened to simply "racism."
The word "racism" did not come into mainstream use by television, radio, press or print until the late 1960s, but even so, it was still used primarily among scholars, Academia, essayists and social commentators.
More important is the connotations associated with "racialism/racism."
We are not talking about garden variety prejudice or discrimination here.
What we are attempting to convey or connote with the word "racism" is a specific type of prejudice
that rises to the level of hostility and/or hatred.
Accordingly, "racism" is an act of hostility or hatred perpetrated upon an individual or group, solely on the basis of race or ethnicity.
"Racism" also connotes or conveys an attitude of superiority, based entirely on race or ethnicity.
Your totally flawed premise is debunked.
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Originally Posted by Malkiel
The usual response is that having a relationship with someone requires innate attraction—attraction that may not form with members of a particular race.
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Whether true or not, it is not racism, since it is not founded or based on hostility or hatred, or superiority.
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Originally Posted by Malkiel
Therefore, people either consider that not racism or find it “justified”. But, I believe that's a ridiculous argument because the very act of not being able to find someone attractive just because of their race is defined as racism.
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That is false, for the reasons I previously pointed out.
I do not like red-heads, so I suppose you would call me a racist because I wouldn't date Irish women.
I don't find blondes to be particularly attractive either. Having spent more than 30 days in 21 different countries on 5 different continents, I've seen less than 2 dozen blondes that I thought were even remotely attractive.
So, what now, I'm a "race-traitor?"
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Originally Posted by Malkiel
Another common response is that "people have their own preferences"... Well duh! That's exactly what racism is about.
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Totally wrong.
Racism is about hostility, hatred and an attitude of superiority.
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The fact that Whites didn't want to go to the same restaurants as Blacks due to their "preferences" didn't make their actions any less racist.
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It is not racist to have no desire to eat chitlins or fried pork skin (commonly called 'pork rinds').
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Originally Posted by Malkiel
If you're going into a job interview and at the end, the interviewer says “Sorry, I can't just hire you because I don't work well with Whites (or add your own race)”, would you not sue him for racism? In this case, not being able to function with Whites is no defense for racism.
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As appalling as it might seem to some, that is not racism. Assuming the claim was unfounded, you can chalk it up to prejudice or bigotry, or even bias.
But then what if the claim was true?
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Originally Posted by Malkiel
However, I'm not suggesting that we should date unattractive (even if that's just due to their race) people because it's perfectly legal to be racist during dating, and also attraction is quite essential for a relationship. My point is that we should all be honest and just admit that we're racist rather than trying to rationalize our behaviour in order to ignore the blatant racism.
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But they aren't racists, so why would they admit to being something they aren't just to validate your false belief system?
Extremely discriminating tastes...
Mircea