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Old 03-31-2012, 01:18 PM
 
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No..-Actually a really good friend ......Trust me there is that fine line there......But sometimes I wonder he's attracted to me and cant' handle the situation. And if that is the case, I definitely dont want to make him feel uncomfortable.
I think you definately DO want to make him uncomfortable....and you're enjoying it.
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Old 03-31-2012, 03:42 PM
 
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Just want to take the high road - and show him that I'm willing to be the bigger person in the current situation....Was really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. I mean he did apologize for what happened.
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Old 04-01-2012, 08:32 AM
 
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Again....So if suddently I cease texting,calling him (or returning his calls), he's going to ask about the weird behavior. What would be great explanation to give him for the behavior? Sometimes I tend to say things that come across the wrong way.
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Old 04-01-2012, 06:25 PM
 
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Seriously can someone tell me what/how to say to him...Just dont want to hurt his feelings and come across as being a little bitter.
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Old 04-01-2012, 07:03 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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Holy cow. What are we, your personal relationship coaches? You're (presumably) a grown woman -- figure it out.

I'm starting to get a feel for why he's minimizing his contact with you.
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Old 04-01-2012, 10:18 PM
 
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Seriously can someone tell me what/how to say to him...Just dont want to hurt his feelings and come across as being a little bitter.
Say you're really busy.

And get busy too.
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Old 04-05-2012, 10:11 PM
 
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I don't believe that he sees you as a friend. He may see you as a woman who is attracted to him and wants his attention, so maybe he's toying with that. Sounds like you need to cut him off. Just say you've been really busy.
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Old 04-06-2012, 03:20 AM
 
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Me and this guy are really good friends. Yes he has a girlfriend but I am fine with that. Would not do anything to come between him and is girlfriend. Well anyway, we text from time 2 time to catch up...Last week we agreed to meet on 3 seperate occassions to catch up in person...We agreed to meet out this bar....All 3 times there was an excuse of why he could not make it. Me being the patient person that I am understands that things come up...but cmon now.... I mean personally, do not invite someone out on 3 separate occasions, unless u are sure you can make it.....Just thought it was rude and very insensitive...Anybody agree with me?
Sounds to me like he could have been getting some grief from his girlfriend about meeting you at a bar. Sometimes the combination of drinks even casual between a guy and a girl can end up in a sexual encounter you are not looking for. It is tough to be friends with a guy if you are a girl. I have a couple of guy friends but I am also probably alot older than you (64). One of my guy pals has been my friend since High School and I think since he has been married, I have been to see him one time at his home and had my son with me. If you want to catch up with him on "stuff", ask him out for lunch and leave the alcohol out of the equation.
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Old 04-06-2012, 03:53 AM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Me and this guy are really good friends. Yes he has a girlfriend but I am fine with that.
Do you have a choice option?

Read between the lines...she intends to come between your friendship, this isn't okay on her end.

Have you ever been invited to join the two of them for dinner, a BBQ, a drink, anything?

How long have you known him and how long has he been in a relationship with her?

Do you ever put forth any effort to get to know his gf?

Does his company exclude her? That may be the answer.

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Old 04-06-2012, 04:51 AM
 
Location: Ostend,Belgium....
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why explain anything, just go away...people come into and go out of eachothers lives all te time...why explain? why stay when it's not right? you're complicating stuff!
unless you're doing what purehuman, said..enjoying your being there, disturbing the peace...
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