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One thing I have observed is that when going without a relationship for a prolonged period of time, the reaction emotionally from some people tends to be anger or resentment, for wanting to be in a relationship, but having to go without. A frustration, resentment, or bitterness type of a feelings-based reaction that builds up, in other words. For others, it is sort of the opposite kind of emotional reaction: despair, depression, inconsolable sadness and anguish, feelings of being unlovable and like a failure, and similar.
My question is, what is it exactly do you think that triggers the emotional reaction, either way? Is it just part our individual emotional wiring, as personality characteristics, and something that boils down to individual temperaments? FWIW, I have personally noticed in my own personal exp. that the anger/resentment emotional type usually outnumbers the despair/depressed type. (Could it be perhaps that people with higher self-esteem tend to become frustrated and angry, whereas people with lower self-esteem tend to be become depressed and despairing? )
Thoughts?
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 04-02-2012 at 11:35 AM..
Reason: Corrected typos
Some people express their negative emotions by taking it out on themselves and other express it by taking it out on others.
Very well-spoken, my friend srjth! Lol, you said it better and more succinctly, than I could have ever have. Tried to rep your post, but alas, looks like I gotta spread the rep around first
people would be a lot more 'happy' if others didn't make them feel like crap b/c they are not 'with someone' or running around like a basket case over another person. since this is considered the norm, anyone not doing those things gets treated accordingly or like a freak.
people would be a lot more 'happy' if others didn't make them feel like crap b/c they are not 'with someone' or running around like a basket case over another person. since this is considered the norm, anyone not doing those things gets treated accordingly or like a freak.
I wholeheartedly agree with your statements above, my friend Doll Eyes ((hugs))
people would be a lot more 'happy' if others didn't make them feel like crap b/c they are not 'with someone' or running around like a basket case over another person. since this is considered the norm, anyone not doing those things gets treated accordingly or like a freak.
C-D wouldn't let me "rep" you again, but consider yourself "repped!"
I think that you're spot on. As I posted in the "childfree" threat, societal pressure is a b*tch to deal with. Sometimes I think back to my college days and early 20s and wonder if I dated a certain guy because I really liked him or because it was just "easier" to conform to peer pressure and have that guaranteed date on New Year's Eve.
When you're not a part of a relationship, it can be hard to feel 100 percent OK with being alone, even if you're genuinely happy that way. I've reached the stage of life where I enjoy being with my S.O., but if something happened and we broke up, I'd have an easier time dealing with my newfound aloneness.
C-D wouldn't let me "rep" you again, but consider yourself "repped!"
I think that you're spot on. As I posted in the "childfree" threat, societal pressure is a b*tch to deal with. Sometimes I think back to my college days and early 20s and wonder if I dated a certain guy because I really liked him or because it was just "easier" to conform to peer pressure and have that guaranteed date on New Year's Eve.
When you're not a part of a relationship, it can be hard to feel 100 percent OK with being alone, even if you're genuinely happy that way. I've reached the stage of life where I enjoy being with my S.O., but if something happened and we broke up, I'd have an easier time dealing with my newfound aloneness.
Well if you have S.O. then you are in the 'norm' and have nothing to worry about, the more it seems you veer from that path the worse peoples treat you in this world, as you said, even if you are 100 percent happy that way. They makes you feel like you are a worthless freak.
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Lol, you said it better and more succinctly, than I could have ever have. Tried to rep your post, but alas, looks like I gotta spread the rep around first 
