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For those of you who have SO's, did you feel spark and excitement about them right away? For those that don't, how long do you wait to feel it before you move on?
Yup, you just know.
First time I saw hubby, this voice inside my head said "you are going to be with this man forever." It felt like I finally met half of myself, that I didn't even know I was missing.
I think initial attraction is very important however I think adversity is when you really "know" until you have to rely on each other in difficult times, you really don't know how much your mate is dedicated to the relationship/each other. You really see the important things in a person when their character is tested which will ultimately make or break the relationship.
You also cannot rush, relationships take time and rushing to get into a relationship because of your age or loneliness will only end in disaster. It blinds you from seeing the reality of a situation because you're more concerned with trying to control something you really have no control over since you can't control another person and only yourself.
I am not sure that it was the spark that convinced me that my wife was the right one. She was not the first woman I felt a spark over.
It was the fact that in addition to that spark, things seemed to fit. Such as, our interests, likes, etc were very compatable. We loved to take part in each other's hobbies, learn about them, etc.
Our lives and future plans fit. We both have similar desires and interests. Goals in life, how and when to achieve them.
We both have similar values, moral and spiritual.
Beyond the spark, or lust, I could tell where her heart really was through her actions, her priorities, etc.
The fact that we had some rather big adversities to overcome (not between us, like fighting, but things each of us faced on our own that could have been hurdles) and that we cheerfully helped and supported each other, grew closer and stronger together through them instead of letting them become a wedge.
I sometimes think that meeting someone online first sucks a lot of the mystique out of meeting them IRL for the first time. You kinda already know what to expect — at least you know the basics. You know what they look like (well, hopefully), what they do for a living, if they've been married before, etc.
I met my guy through Match.com. I thought he was just the cutest thing ever when I met him in person. He just had this glimmer of ... I dunno. Something. He seemed like a genuinely honorable person. But the more we went out, the more I liked him as a person. At the three-month mark, I was a goner.
I met my guy on match as well. We are getting married this summer. I would say it was the same amount of time (3mnth). When you can be open and honest with him and he doesn't judge you of wha you are then he's a keeper!
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