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Old 04-02-2012, 09:29 PM
 
Location: In bucolic TN
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I'm at a point where I am taking care of my professional needs, my son's needs (he's 5) and paying bills. I would have time for a partner, but I chose not to, in order to focus on my bigger priorities, which right now, are not-me. Unless there's a knock at the door, I'm not going to go looking.

Having said that, I'm intelligent, outgoing, fun, good-humored and good looking. I cook well, I'm in good shape, and I have a great spiritual grounding. Aside from my kid, I have few needs. A partner at this time is not one of those needs. I can't get a gf, but I'm also not looking, and not missing it.

 
Old 04-02-2012, 09:31 PM
 
Location: La Jolla, CA
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I don't have any problems, even in the supposedly difficult 30+ crowd.
 
Old 04-02-2012, 09:42 PM
 
Location: In my view finder.....
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5'6". Thin, runner-type build isn't helping either.


John,

I've read both of your replies


EXCUSES. That's all they are. EXCUSES!!
 
Old 04-02-2012, 09:45 PM
 
Location: In my view finder.....
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Dunno, part of it is that I don't try hard enough. I'm usually too afraid to make a real move so I end up in the friend zone. But I'm more than fine with laying the blame on something else as well, namely the environments I find myself in. I don't go out to a lot of parties, we usually just have people at our house. The guys here all mostly know guys and only a handful of girls, all far out of my league. The girls here also mostly know guys and the few girls they know are usually taken.

Hell I went to a party on Friday and the majority of girls were there with their boyfriends or were interested in other guys

A few weeks ago we had a party and I tried making a move on this one girl who I thought was into me but she denied me hahaha, ah well at least I tried.

Perhaps part of it is also that I'm not interesting enough. I'm pretty fun to hang out with I think but I just don't do much with my spare time. I need to join some more social clubs honestly, just to have stuff to do on the weekends besides drinking.
Why not appraoch women in the day time? Non party environments, like a coffee shop of grocery store(my favorite place)?

Not eveny guy( including myslef) goes to bars, clubs, parties.

I approach women cold, in the day time. It's much more difficult to do it in the day time but it's easier for me.
 
Old 04-02-2012, 09:46 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I decided to create this thread as a play on the thread about knowing people that don't date.

My question; Why can't YOU get a date?


I'm asking YOU to answer for yourself.



Why can't YOU get a date/girlfriend/laid/FWB?





FWB= Friends with bennefits( if you don't know what it means, please don't ask me to explain)

Wife won't let me.
 
Old 04-02-2012, 09:51 PM
 
Location: In my view finder.....
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Lack of confidence
Short
Not super fit... although I have improved substantially.
Not a d-bag
Did I mention no confidence?
I'm a nice guy but I have confidence. You don't have to be a jerk. Stop with the excuse making.

If you're not fit, go get fit. Don't do it for women, never do that. Do it for the long term health bennefits.

Short? What does that have to do with it? How do you know women don't like short guys? You can't possibly know. You have to appraoch women in order to find out.

So what makes you think being short has anything to do with it?


I hope you're not listening to people on this forum.
 
Old 04-02-2012, 09:52 PM
 
Location: In my view finder.....
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Originally Posted by Kin Atoms View Post
I'm at a point where I am taking care of my professional needs, my son's needs (he's 5) and paying bills. I would have time for a partner, but I chose not to, in order to focus on my bigger priorities, which right now, are not-me. Unless there's a knock at the door, I'm not going to go looking.

Having said that, I'm intelligent, outgoing, fun, good-humored and good looking. I cook well, I'm in good shape, and I have a great spiritual grounding. Aside from my kid, I have few needs. A partner at this time is not one of those needs. I can't get a gf, but I'm also not looking, and not missing it.
Well Kin, I guess this thread was not intended for you.
 
Old 04-02-2012, 09:53 PM
 
Location: In my view finder.....
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Wife won't let me.


Good one!
 
Old 04-02-2012, 10:03 PM
 
Location: Holland, MI
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I'm a nice guy but I have confidence. You don't have to be a jerk. Stop with the excuse making.

If you're not fit, go get fit. Don't do it for women, never do that. Do it for the long term health bennefits.

Short? What does that have to do with it? How do you know women don't like short guys? You can't possibly know. You have to appraoch women in order to find out.

So what makes you think being short has anything to do with it?


I hope you're not listening to people on this forum.
By being short and unfit... I have less confidence
 
Old 04-02-2012, 10:07 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Why not appraoch women in the day time? Non party environments, like a coffee shop of grocery store(my favorite place)?

Not eveny guy( including myslef) goes to bars, clubs, parties.

I approach women cold, in the day time. It's much more difficult to do it in the day time but it's easier for me.
I'm wimpy. At least in class/in clubs I have something common to start off with (what did you think of the exam, how'd you hear about this club, etc). In public? Hell nah, I'd need a few shots of liquid courage to do so. It sucks man, there are a couple cute chicks who are always on the same bus as me in the morning (it's a student shuttle) and I wanna approach them but there's nothin to go off of. At least if they were wearing a band t-shirt or something I could use that lol.
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