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Old 04-11-2012, 10:49 PM
 
Location: earth?
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I think he sounds rude and passive aggressive. If he valued you, it would not be a big deal to talk on the phone or text - even if he is with his daughter. He sounds like a jerk with control issues and you are not getting your needs met.

It is a sad situation because he holds all of the cards. You want MORE from him and he is not GIVING YOU WHAT YOU WANT. He is not meeting your needs - either can't or won't or doesn't care.

it's a mismatch. Get into therapy or get out.

He needs to bring something to the relationship.

You are basically "chasing" him and he is running away.

It's a "push-pull" problem. Look it up for more insight.
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Old 04-11-2012, 10:51 PM
 
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Search "push pull in relationships."
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Old 04-11-2012, 10:55 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I think he sounds rude and passive aggressive. If he valued you, it would not be a big deal to talk on the phone or text - even if he is with his daughter. He sounds like a jerk with control issues and you are not getting your needs met.

It is a sad situation because he holds all of the cards. You want MORE from him and he is not GIVING YOU WHAT YOU WANT. He is not meeting your needs - either can't or won't or doesn't care.

it's a mismatch. Get into therapy or get out.

He needs to bring something to the relationship.

You are basically "chasing" him and he is running away.

It's a "push-pull" problem. Look it up for more insight.

Am I missing something from somewhere else.... how is he doing all of this because he didn't call when he was out with his daughter?
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Old 04-11-2012, 10:59 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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]Am I missing something[/b] from somewhere else.... how is he doing all of this because he didn't call when he was out with his daughter?
There are about 5 different threads of problems.
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Old 04-11-2012, 10:59 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Am I missing something from somewhere else.... how is he doing all of this because he didn't call when he was out with his daughter?
I guess you could read a few of her other 8 threads about him if you wanted to get a more in depth look at their relationship.
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Old 04-11-2012, 11:03 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I guess you could read a few of her other 8 threads about him if you wanted to get a more in depth look at their relationship.

I'll pass

All the best to the OP, hopefully everything works out.
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Old 04-12-2012, 06:05 AM
 
Location: Heart of Dixie
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A phone call or text to say "hi, we have arrived, touch base with you in a few days." Don't be needy, or you won't have a bf.
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Old 04-12-2012, 06:27 AM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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Ok, as others have said, you have many threads questioning this guy.

Read this thread.
//www.city-data.com/forum/relat...p-trouble.html

On this issue your guy could be right.
Don't be the person who started this thread, don't come between him and his child.

I do understand where you're coming from, but perhaps you should have made arrangements to contact each other while he wa saway BEFORE he left.
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