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I was pretty pumped to surprise my gf with a slew of gifts at midnight when her bday started. I handed her the bag of gifts (a cinema gift card, chocolate, gold earrings, tickets to her favorite musical Hedwig and the Angry Inch, a car mount for her phone, a homemade card). She was trying to finish up some grad school homework and said she wanted to wait to open the gifts until she finished, that she'd be just a half an hour or so. I wake up at 6:00am for work everyday, but I was like "it's her birthday and she said it wouldn't be long so I'll wait around." So it's almost 2:00am when she finishes, which I'm not thrilled about but whatever. She opens the presents and bursts into tears of joy she's so happy. So far so good right?
Well on her actual birthday-day I'm at work tired as hell and by the time I get back she's gone doing her own stuff until 10:00pm. When she got back I had just woken up from a much needed nap, and had fired up CS: GO for like 15 minutes. She basically scoffs at me and tells me she was expecting something more today and that she couldn't believe I was playing games when she got home. We had already planned to go out to dinner the next day (tonight) because of our scheduling conflicts and I had a cake for after that. I also responded with "I'll make dinner for us tonight and we can do whatever you want", but I guess that wasn't enough and she continued with "you should have this you should have that". I honestly got hurt by this, like it entirely nullified what I had done the previous night, so I told her. Well this turned into a fight, which turned into her crying on her birthday and me sleeping in the second bedroom. Now I'm at work and I'm not sure what the hell to say or do.
And a side note, her family is apparently really big on birthdays. We live in Atlanta and her family all lives across the country but everyone visits each person for their bday every single year. She said this is the first year that nobody was coming and was really upset about that. So that complicates things and I guess it put a lot of pressure on me.
So what should I do, and am I in the wrong here or is my girlfriend just uptight?
I'm big on birthdays, too. With that being said, I think you did a very nice job with the gifts and then planning for dinner and cake the next day. I'm curious as to what else she said you should have done...
I was pretty pumped to surprise my gf with a slew of gifts at midnight when her bday started. I handed her the bag of gifts (a cinema gift card, chocolate, gold earrings, tickets to her favorite musical Hedwig and the Angry Inch, a car mount for her phone, a homemade card). She was trying to finish up some grad school homework and said she wanted to wait to open the gifts until she finished, that she'd be just a half an hour or so. I wake up at 6:00am for work everyday, but I was like "it's her birthday and she said it wouldn't be long so I'll wait around." So it's almost 2:00am when she finishes, which I'm not thrilled about but whatever. She opens the presents and bursts into tears of joy she's so happy. So far so good right?
Well on her actual birthday-day I'm at work tired as hell and by the time I get back she's gone doing her own stuff until 10:00pm. When she got back I had just woken up from a much needed nap, and had fired up CS: GO for like 15 minutes. She basically scoffs at me and tells me she was expecting something more today and that she couldn't believe I was playing games when she got home. We had already planned to go out to dinner the next day (tonight) because of our scheduling conflicts and I had a cake for after that. I also responded with "I'll make dinner for us tonight and we can do whatever you want", but I guess that wasn't enough and she continued with "you should have this you should have that". I honestly got hurt by this, like it entirely nullified what I had done the previous night, so I told her. Well this turned into a fight, which turned into her crying on her birthday and me sleeping in the second bedroom. Now I'm at work and I'm not sure what the hell to say or do.
And a side note, her family is apparently really big on birthdays. We live in Atlanta and her family all lives across the country but everyone visits each person for their bday every single year. She said this is the first year that nobody was coming and was really upset about that. So that complicates things and I guess it put a lot of pressure on me.
So what should I do, and am I in the wrong here or is my girlfriend just uptight?
I think here is the problem. SHe was overall depressed about her family not being present.
Is she usually a nice person or is this one of many signs that she is a spoiled girl? If this is just one single incident, I would let it slide.
The fact that you titled this with the words that YOU ruined her birthday tells me that she has really brainwashed you. I would take a good look at this relationship if I were you.
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