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Keep in mind that women gave birth in private, with no men around, surrounded by other women. If the baby was strikingly different looking than the supposed father the child was easily killed off. Women have always found a way around these things. Don't be so naive.
Not saying it never happened, but this really sounds absurd. Killing the baby will NOT change his looks and I would expect most fathers would want to at least LOOK at the child before burial.
However, I am of the belief that single sex partners has never really been the NORM... It may have been taboo among the elitist and therefore kept secret but I suspect most adults had more than one..
That's what many don't seem to get - nobody can be "head over heels" in love with anybody forever. It's both unnecessary and unrealistic, particularly in a domestic situation. That infatuation is supposed to grow into calmer love. Or it doesn't... The latter happens most of the time.
I'm still looking for the 1 in 10,000. I know she's out there somewhere! Maybe it's a he and society is telling me I must find a woman
OK, I have to ask - if you marry a virgin, what are you going to do if/when you find out she's lousy in bed and has zero sex drive, meaning you have to beg for twice a year Christmas and Birthday sex (this is what my brother calls it haha) and all she does is lie there?
Back in the day, if you were both virgins, you wouldn't have had anything to compare to, to know if someone was lousy or not. It just would have been whatever you made it to be. And for some religions, sex was strictly meant for procreation, not recreation.
I don't think I'd want to go back in time, especially considering all the other restrictions and limitations of life prior to the 60s. But I also thinkthere are some people who put too much stock into sexual compatibility and overlook all the other necessary ingredients for a successful relationship (which is a whole other topic than one for this thread).
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Many times, they can't. I have a high libido, I've always been a horndog, lol...but one of my best friends has talked to me countless times for ideas on how to increase her sex drive, she and her hsuband only have sex a few times a year because no matter what, no matter how good she feels, or what they do, she has no desire at all. All the things that get me going I've suggested to her and her husband, and it never works, and I don't think he's the problem, I want to blame the man, hehe, but it's just not the issue.
She was a virgin till marriage, and admits now that the reason she decided to commit to that was that she had no desire anyway, and figured when the right guy came along, that her libido would wake up.
She's almost 40 and it never has. She gives her husband "permission" to look at as much porn as he needs to to keep satisfied, but the guy stays with her so kudos to him for that.
Well if she couldn't do anything to change it then either marriage was not for her, or she should have found a partner with a similarly low libido/interest in sex. Or allowed him to get what he needed on the side, lol.
We're committed to each other, yet we like to explore other people. Thoroughly.
Something I want to ask you, who was it that decided that monogamy was "outdated"? Was it you or was there some secret meeting to declare, "in the year 2012, monogamy will become outdated." I really wasn't aware that it was. As I've said and will say again, morals never go out of style.
OK, I have to ask - if you marry a virgin, what are you going to do if/when you find out she's lousy in bed and has zero sex drive, meaning you have to beg for twice a year Christmas and Birthday sex (this is what my brother calls it haha) and all she does is lie there?
Well like all "JOBS" if its not working you fix it , work on it , Get medical help if nessessary just like the rest of the problems you will encounter in life together. If you are not willing to do this then you shouldn't get married. You don't look for greener pastures you make yours get green . know from experance ! 49 yrs and counting , both virgins, and have been learning together ! I wouldn't want it any other way.
Back in the day, if you were both virgins, you wouldn't have had anything to compare to, to know if someone was lousy or not. It just would have been whatever you made it to be. And for some religions, sex was strictly meant for procreation, not recreation.
Back in the day, too, women's sexuality wasn't something that was given priority (and was even thought not to exist.) Sex was something you did, not something you enjoyed.
Something I want to ask you, who was it that decided that monogamy was "outdated"?
THat belief came after a discussion between my wife and myself.
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and society is telling me I must find a woman
Could be...
