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Old 04-17-2012, 10:46 AM
 
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It's a line unattached women hear from their friends often when they wonder why they seem to be perpetually single. "Men are just intimidated because you're so beautiful/smart/successful/etc."

Is it true that men are afraid to approach a woman they find extremely attractive, or is it just a line used to make these women feel better?
Sometimes, I get nervous around women I find attractive, which is not necessarily what society might find the most attractive.

I also find if the woman is engaging and friendly, it will put me at ease.

Also, the perfect cure for being intimidated around attractive women or any women for that matter ... get a girlfriend.
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Old 04-17-2012, 10:47 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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In my salad days, I could have been. I remember being introduced to one girl who was so gorgeous that I was totally tongue tied. As in all I could do was babble insensibly. Meanwhile, my brain was saying, "Good God, Man! Say something witty! You're better than this!" Needless to say, I didn't make a good impression. She probably thought I was semi-retarded.
LMAO! I have been there. I can't talk to most incredibly gorgeous women, I get tongue tied as well. I think this is partly because of how young I am. I notice the older I get, the more I am willing to just say "f**k it! You only live once".

I have met incredibly attractive women who I seem to click with. These types are the rare breed who actually have a personality that compliments yours. Easy to get along with, and fun to be around. Remember ladies, its your job to carry on the conversation too! I hate it when I have to do ALL of the work.
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Old 04-17-2012, 10:54 AM
 
Location: Central North Carolina
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Nobody wants to be rejected. I believe the thought process is that a beautiful woman can have anyone she wants (right or wrong), so she is more likely to reject someone who is not exactly what she wants.

So yes, that can be intimidating for someone who does not have the confidence.

As we get older, we focus less on superficial things, and we care less about them, so the anxiety associated with approaching beautiful women diminishes (because as we get older, beauty is so much more than just how a person looks).
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Old 04-17-2012, 10:58 AM
 
Location: West Los Angeles
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Remember ladies, its your job to carry on the conversation too! I hate it when I have to do ALL of the work.
This is a great point, and really for me, this is where the intimidation comes into play. I'm "intimidated" by the amount of work ahead of me when trying to talk to/ask out/date a hot woman who has a million other options. The girl herself isn't intimidating, she's just a person as am I.

For example, at a bar or first meeting somewhere, one way conversations are a lot of work, and I generally take this as a cue that they're not interested (whether talking to a hot girl or a regular girl). So when a girl does start asking questions about me, I ease up and feel like the workload ahead may not be that daunting.
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Old 04-17-2012, 11:38 AM
 
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It's a line unattached women hear from their friends often when they wonder why they seem to be perpetually single. "Men are just intimidated because you're so beautiful/smart/successful/etc."

Is it true that men are afraid to approach a woman they find extremely attractive, or is it just a line used to make these women feel better?
Since I march to my own drummer, I've got my own answer. The OP asks about pretty women. Trying to talk to a 9.75+ girl who is a total ditz in SoCal is difficult because...well...they don't have much to say...unless you can't help them in "the industry" or some other shallow endeavor. (I also find it hard to maintain a conversation with a woman cutting my hair at "Great Clips" because she might talk about having recently moved from Vegas with her kids). If an attractive woman who is an 8 or a 9 is also smart, they are easier to talk to because they can actually talk about something. I don't think most men are intimidated by women who are in their same rating zone, whatever that might be. At least, I hope not.
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Old 04-17-2012, 11:38 AM
 
Location: Las Vegas, NV
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It's a line unattached women hear from their friends often when they wonder why they seem to be perpetually single. "Men are just intimidated because you're so beautiful/smart/successful/etc."

Is it true that men are afraid to approach a woman they find extremely attractive, or is it just a line used to make these women feel better?
I for one definitely am. Even though I am a 3 or 4 in the looks dept, I always shoot much higher than my own league. I usually only try talking to women who are 6es and up. Which usually results in either two things

1. I'm too afraid to talk to them

2. Massive failure, getting shut down so harshly that it could make Stevie Wonder flinch
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Old 04-17-2012, 12:17 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I for one definitely am. Even though I am a 3 or 4 in the looks dept, I always shoot much higher than my own league. I usually only try talking to women who are 6es and up. Which usually results in either two things

1. I'm too afraid to talk to them

2. Massive failure, getting shut down so harshly that it could make Stevie Wonder flinch
You look good! You're just too young... You'll grow into a good-looking man!
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Old 04-17-2012, 12:25 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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I am. It's a self-confidence thing. I figure a pretty girl has plenty of men all interested in her, and I figure many of them are probably better looking than me, so I figure she's not gonna be into me.
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Old 04-17-2012, 12:32 PM
 
Location: The D-M-V area
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When I was single it seemed as if the guys with the biggest egos would approach me the quiet brainy types were kinda scarce.

The guys with the arrogant stance usually had the most guts and if you turned them down they'd persist for a while because they couldn't believe you weren't interested, or if you went out once with them they couldn't believe they only got one date.

I also had no problem asking guys out I was interested in dating.
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Old 04-17-2012, 12:40 PM
 
Location: Atlanta
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As a general rule, I think this is true.
I know that I was intimidated by the girl that would eventually become my wife. I didn't talk to her for the first month after first meeting her. I ASSUMED that I was simply NOT good enough for her..
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