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Old 04-17-2012, 02:54 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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wow..if all I have to do is giggle, smile and twirl my hair, I'd be married by now!
I was told once I should just walk and talk to myself (the accent).
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Old 04-17-2012, 02:55 PM
 
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I was told once I should just walk and talk to myself (the accent).
hehehe, well your accent is pretty cute! I would agree with that advice in your case!
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Old 04-17-2012, 02:57 PM
 
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In all honesty, I'm more intimidated by pretty men. That's why I'm quick to label them gay.
That made no sense at all.....
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Old 04-17-2012, 02:59 PM
 
Location: SXSW
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I already asked this question awhile ago:
//www.city-data.com/forum/relat...ted-women.html

By the way, the answer is no. If a guy is into you, he will say something or go out of his way to get your attention.
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Old 04-17-2012, 03:02 PM
 
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wow..if all I have to do is giggle, smile and twirl my hair, I'd be married by now! those are not signals. its just stuff some women do. I'm kinda shy, especially around new people
If you are not married by now and giggling, twirling your hair, sending indirect messages, and other “women signals”, etc. has not worked for you have you tried approaching that handsome man in a friendly nice way and taking the initiative? There are many ways women have taking the initiative with me without necessarily being slutty, over doing it, etc. If you are not in a rush to get married then doing the whole women signals might be your thing. If you want to get married and that is not working then you might consider taking action.
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Old 04-17-2012, 03:04 PM
 
Location: On The Road Full Time RVing
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A man is better off at approaching women who are looking at him.
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Old 04-17-2012, 03:10 PM
 
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If you are not married by now and giggling, twirling your hair, sending indirect messages, and other “women signals”, etc. has not worked for you have you tried approaching that handsome man in a friendly nice way and taking the initiative? There are many ways women have taking the initiative with me without necessarily being slutty, over doing it, etc. If you are not in a rush to get married then doing the whole women signals might be your thing. If you want to get married and that is not working then you might consider taking action.
ha, really good looking men are out of my league (I know I know..it shouldn't matter). but eh, never had the opportunity to talk to the handsome ones..but usually when I do, I get closer and see a ring on his finger . Had the cutest guy sit next to me in biology all semester a couple years ago and we talked all the time, and he was very nice, always helping me out if I struggled with a concept (gosh, he was smart too!!). well, after thanksgiving break, he had a fracking ring on his finger! I was crushed . I should have made friends with him though, in case he had equally cute and smart friends. I'll remember that next time. Thing is, after a good friend of man accused me of essentially being a man stealer, I hesitate to befriend taken men. Not to mention, that might be inappropriate anyways.
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Old 04-17-2012, 03:18 PM
 
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ha, really good looking men are out of my league (I know I know..it shouldn't matter)
Don’t be too harsh on yourself girlie. You’ll be surprised how this is not true all the time. Once you and that handsome guy know each other more he might see you are the kind of girl he likes. I have gotten a surprise here and there when a girl I find attractive asks me out or vice versa and it’s all good. We won’t know if someone is out of our league until we try and do something about it. Passiveness won’t get women/men too far in life.

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but eh, never had the opportunity to talk to the handsome ones..but usually when I do, I get closer and see a ring on his finger .
Well, that was one, gotta keep trying.

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Had the cutest guy sit next to me in biology all semester a couple years ago and we talked all the time, and he was very nice, always helping me out if I struggled with a concept (gosh, he was smart too!!). well, after thanksgiving break, he had a fracking ring on his finger!
Well, that was two hahaha!

Men get rejected and get back on their feet. You can do it too. You seem easy to talk to so I don’t see how you being this way would be a turn off to a man you find attractive.

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Not to mention, that might be inappropriate anyways.
Approaching married women is not something I want to do either.
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Old 04-17-2012, 03:25 PM
 
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It's a line unattached women hear from their friends often when they wonder why they seem to be perpetually single. "Men are just intimidated because you're so beautiful/smart/successful/etc."

Is it true that men are afraid to approach a woman they find extremely attractive, or is it just a line used to make these women feel better?
It's just a line used to make these women feel better.

There are certainly very attractive unattached women who may be single for a variety of reasons. They may be very picky, and sometimes very picky and not notice it. I have a lady friend who doesn't realize how picky she is, but she's ridiculously good-looking, has a great personality, and doesn't put out often...so she may take for granted how many options she has.

I'm not intimidated by a 10, but I'm not approaching a woman who seems unapproachable. I have a lady friend who has used the "guys must be intimated by me...". She cute, but certainly not intimidatingly hot, so it's not her looks. It's that she comes across as a judgmental *****, which she kinda is.

Looks certainly matter, but attitude and demeanor plays a huge part. If a woman goes into it thinking "I want to meet someone, but guys are intimidated by me because I'm [too pretty, smart, real, etc.]", well, we don't want hear that ****. We worked all day too and have our own problems.

I have a lady friend who is 30 pounds overweight and gets good-looking guys all the time because she is out-going and doesn't have an attitude. So the point it, even if you've had a bad day, get over yourself. As Drew Carey said:

"Oh, you hate your job? Why didn't you say so? There's a support group for that. It's called EVERYBODY, and they meet at the bar."
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Old 04-17-2012, 03:25 PM
 
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A man is better off at approaching women who are looking at him.
I will tell you this much. I'm not a 10, but I'm higher than a 5. Sometimes, in a supermarket or in a public place, I will sense that someone is looking at me. I will turn and, if it's a reasonably attractive woman, she will turn away as if nothing happened. The ones who will look and acknowledge are the not-so good looking ones. Other friends have reported the same thing.

Only a few times in my life did I see something to the contrary. I was in a Borders Cafe with a married friend of mine reading through some paperwork / documents. Two women at a nearby table kept looking our way. They were both attractive. The weird thing was that one of them had a baby in a bassinet, and she was doing more of the looking than the other one. My friend and I were thinking WTF? I don't know if she needed some sort of validation or was ovulating. She had NOT gotten fat after her pregnancy.
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