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Old 04-17-2012, 09:46 AM
 
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It's a line unattached women hear from their friends often when they wonder why they seem to be perpetually single. "Men are just intimidated because you're so beautiful/smart/successful/etc."

Is it true that men are afraid to approach a woman they find extremely attractive, or is it just a line used to make these women feel better?
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Old 04-17-2012, 09:50 AM
 
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I admit, I often am. That's why it's easier to just hang around/make friends with the plain janes, because there's not that constant nagging attraction there.

I'm sure it's a major problem for your beautiful model friends.
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Old 04-17-2012, 09:54 AM
 
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yes. some men can get over it and others cannot. Men who have had past successes are more confident regarding this.
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Old 04-17-2012, 09:58 AM
 
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It's a line unattached women hear from their friends often when they wonder why they seem to be perpetually single. "Men are just intimidated because you're so beautiful/smart/successful/etc."

Is it true that men are afraid to approach a woman they find extremely attractive, or is it just a line used to make these women feel better?

I have heard that myself a few different times from friends. I don't put much stock in it anymore. I probably believed that for maybe a year and felt good about myself because of it. Then reality sinks in that they were probably trying to be nice and not tell you the real truth: you're ugly/unattractive, no man would want you because of a, b, or c. etc.

Nobody wants to tell their friend things like that, so instead they say: "you intimidate men b/c you're soooo attractive/smart." LOL.

No I do not think men are 'intimidated' by women. They will bend over backwards to accommodate attractive ones, whenever possible. Seen it with my own eyes.
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Old 04-17-2012, 10:04 AM
 
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In my salad days, I could have been. I remember being introduced to one girl who was so gorgeous that I was totally tongue tied. As in all I could do was babble insensibly. Meanwhile, my brain was saying, "Good God, Man! Say something witty! You're better than this!" Needless to say, I didn't make a good impression. She probably thought I was semi-retarded.
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Old 04-17-2012, 10:06 AM
 
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In my salad days, I could have been. I remember being introduced to one girl who was so gorgeous that I was totally tongue tied. As in all I could do was babble insensibly. Meanwhile, my brain was saying, "Good God, Man! Say something witty! You're better than this!" Needless to say, I didn't make a good impression. She probably thought I was semi-retarded.
That's why male trash gets the best women. They have the guts!
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Old 04-17-2012, 10:26 AM
 
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When I was younger, I think I may have been somewhat intimidated, but I was also more shy and not very good at "small talk".

As I got older I also become more confident, and now, it's not a problem approaching or talking to anyone, though it's still unlikely that I'd insinuate myself into a group of people with that goal unless I knew some of them.
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Old 04-17-2012, 10:28 AM
 
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Good looking, successful men aren't. However, guys who don't fall into that category are.
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Old 04-17-2012, 10:42 AM
 
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I admit, I often am. That's why it's easier to just hang around/make friends with the plain janes, because there's not that constant nagging attraction there.

I'm sure it's a major problem for your beautiful model friends.
Hm...no, I think most of them have boyfriends. But maybe they do have trouble when they're single.

It's definitely something I've heard before, and I go back and forth between dismissing it as a platitude and thinking it may be true. Maybe my height really is intimidating to those who aren't simply turned off by it. And I have a degree in math, a subject that most people avoid like the plague. So maybe the intimidation factor does come into play.

But I have a boyfriend and am generally not hurting for attention, so at least some guys don't find me scary.
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Old 04-17-2012, 10:44 AM
 
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I think that is largely true.
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