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Here's the thing I've noticed, by the way. I've found that the parents who are the strictest are the ones who wind up with the unhappiest children and, ultimately, the most estranged relationships with their children. Oddly, they are also the ones whose kids have the most problems. Mind you, we are by no means considered lenient parents. But it's more important to give kids boundaries and guidelines, consistently enforced, than hand down a bunch of autocratic rules.
[1.]No rendezvous, phone calls, text messaging, etc. until I meet the kid and his parents.
[2.]Dating is for mating. Don't date anyone that does not meet the qualifications for you marrying him.
[3.]Don't date any man who is not passionate for God. Those types of fellas will not be passionate for you.
[4.]Sex is for marriage. Period.
[5.]You need to be a who person. Live and love life as though you will be single all your life. The man for you will envelope you like a glove.
[6.]Remind him that his body will fit into the bed of my pickup.
[7.]The relationship that you have with any man will change. That includes the relationship you have with me. Evaluate the fella's potential as well as his current performance.
[8.]Find out what the guys dreams and visions are. Assess how hard he is working at fulfilling them.
[9.]I am the best judge of character you have in assessing a man. Ask me anything you want about any fella that you might even consider.
[10.]While you are a teenager, you don't date anyone more frequently than you date me.
Do you agree or disagree?
DISAGREE
1) How is she ever going to MEET a guy for you to meet?
2) Isn't that the POINT of dating?
3) Assuming facts not in evidence, there are plenty of "religious" people that are truly evil.
4) Not always, Just make sure she knows some guys will say anything to get it.
5) As far as making sure you are self supportive, then this one is good.
6) Threatening murder if you don't like him?
7) YES, another man will be her world ... SORRY .. maybe that's were the killing him comes in?
8) How can she do this without ever dating?
9) How are YOU going to know about him if she isn't allowed to talk to any guy until you do? You are probably the worst judge anyway.
10) Date ? I thought she wasn't allowed to do this?
Please tell us this list is rhetorical and you do NOT plan to use it.
cpg35223's list is MUCH better.
Last edited by Trackwatch; 04-17-2012 at 06:36 PM..
Here's the thing I've noticed, by the way. I've found that the parents who are the strictest are the ones who wind up with the unhappiest children and, ultimately, the most estranged relationships with their children. Oddly, they are also the ones whose kids have the most problems. Mind you, we are by no means considered lenient parents. But it's more important to give kids boundaries and guidelines, consistently enforced, than hand down a bunch of autocratic rules.
I've definitely noticed that. When I got to college - the kids that rebelled the most came from the strictest families. My parents had guidelines and boundaries but I had a boyfriend, I didn't have a curfew as long as I let them know where I was and when I'd be home, they didn't tell me who I could and could not be friends with but they pretty much liked all my friends, etc. I've always had a really good relationship with both my parents. I hope to be as good of a parent to my son as my parents were to me!
I've definitely noticed that. When I got to college - the kids that rebelled the most came from the strictest families. My parents had guidelines and boundaries but I had a boyfriend, I didn't have a curfew as long as I let them know where I was and when I'd be home, they didn't tell me who I could and could not be friends with but they pretty much liked all my friends, etc. I've always had a really good relationship with both my parents. I hope to be as good of a parent to my son as my parents were to me!
Yeah. The worst ones were the PKs (Preacher's Kids). Once they got to college, they were like birds out of a cage.
I wonder if this "Dad" was able to live by #2 and #4, especially #4 if he had lived thru peer pressure and being popular in high school
as for myself and my meeting this "Dad", I think i would fail #8. I have had the same job for the past 21 years (it's a good job but the pay isn't great), i am short in the dreams and visions department, so if that's true then why work hard at something for which i don't have the dream or vision for, right dad??
looks like rlrl FAILS dad's test with flying colors!!!!
I disagree strenuously with all the rules, which I regard as laughably controlling. Any parent with this many rigid rules is a parent to run from.
[1.]No rendezvous, phone calls, text messaging, etc. until I meet the kid and his parents.
What nonsense. Spoken by a control freak on steroids.
[2.]Dating is for mating. Don't date anyone that does not meet the qualifications for you marrying him.
Dating is to have fun and learn what you like and what you don't like. "Dating is for mating" is just plain weird.
[3.]Don't date any man who is not passionate for God. Those types of fellas will not be passionate for you.
ZZZZ.... The most profligate, rapacious womanizers I have known in my life were Christian fundamentalists. (And the biggest hypocrites).
[4.]Sex is for marriage. Period.
More twaddle from Ms. Control Freak. Anyone who marries someone with whom they don't first have sexs (and lots of it) better not complain when their sex life turns out to be the most barren and boring part of their empty lives.
The rest of the list is so inane I won't waste more time exposing it for the sheer idiocy it is.
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