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Old 04-17-2012, 07:40 PM
 
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I met a guy 2 months ago. He is a very nice guy with good values. We've been on 6-7 dates so far and everything was great. We also talk online like everyday or 2.
From day 1 we were very comfortable and we have an incredible chemistry!

However, he doesnt talk about us. I asked him on the 6th date to be a bit more open about his feelings and he told me that its just the way he is, that he doesnt like to talk about sentimental stuff and that guys are simply like that. So I am always the one who has to initiate these type of conversations. When I tell him that I like to be with him, he replies "me too" and I know that he is telling the truth. It doesnt bother me that much because at least he shows his love for me physically (hugs, kisses, holding hands, look me in the eyes when we talk, etc).
Also, I asked him on the 4th date what he wanted from me and he said something serious.

We've came to a point that Id be ready to be in a relationship with him. Im 99% sure that it wont be him who will ask me to be his gf. However im not 100% sure if he is ready or not (even though i know he likes me a lot because I can feel it)...

So the question is, what to do? Do I have to ask him if he already sees me as his gf or not yet?
And am I always the one who will have to initiate a conversation about sentimental stuff?
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Old 04-17-2012, 07:43 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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So the question is, what to do?
Keep asking stupid questions and pretty soon you'll have nothing to worry about!
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Old 04-17-2012, 07:44 PM
 
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Guess what? This is as talkative as he's ever going to get. Punt.
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Old 04-17-2012, 07:46 PM
 
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Oh wow, you're dating my ex, have fun with that!
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Old 04-17-2012, 07:48 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Guess what? This is as talkative as he's ever going to get. Punt.

Agreed.

If you don't like it now, you're not going to like it. Trying to change him is a fool's errand.
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Old 04-17-2012, 07:51 PM
 
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Agreed.

If you don't like it now, you're not going to like it. Trying to change him is a fool's errand.
Although this was put in what I consider a fairly harsh way, I have to pretty much agree with the basic idea, OP. It won't get better from here. It just won't. Please don't try. He may be a great guy but if initiating sentiment is important to you, this will only get to be more of a strain on your relationship, not less.

Please look for someone who can give you what you want and need.
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Old 04-17-2012, 07:53 PM
 
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Which leads to kind of a thread within a thread: Why do some women feel that they can change a guy into what they want him to be? If the guy is a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal who communicates with grunts on the fifth date, he'll also be a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal who communicates with fronts on the fifth anniversary.
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Old 04-17-2012, 07:53 PM
 
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Please look for someone who can give you what you want and need.
I guess she can always switch teams...
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Old 04-17-2012, 07:54 PM
 
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Then again, NOBODY wants to talk about their feelings all the damned time.
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Old 04-17-2012, 07:56 PM
 
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Then again, NOBODY wants to talk about their feelings all the damned time.
Heck, I'm a woman and if somebody was grilling me like this and so early, even I'd be gone!
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