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I am not waiting around. I will date again if the right person is there. I also remember the only reason my ex wanted to rekindle our marriage was for the wrong reason - was uncomfortable knowing I was seeing someone else.
While I can appreciate your thoughts on this I will stress I do not have low self esteem.
Then how do you rationalize waiting around to see if a man you want will come back to you IF he doesn't work things out with his wife??
Honestly, that kind of man holds NO ATTRACTION for a women with real self-esteem.
I think this is the exact reason some states require people to be separated for one year before they get a divorce. Once I'm done, I'm not going backwards, I like moving forward.
I get that. Lol, they were divorced for 3 years. The only reason she wanted him back is because he was moving forward in his life. People seem to always want what they cant have!
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Originally Posted by Singlelady10
I think this is the exact reason some states require people to be separated for one year before they get a divorce. Once I'm done, I'm not going backwards, I like moving forward.
I get that. Lol, they were divorced for 3 years. The only reason she wanted him back is because he was moving forward in his life. People seem to always want what they cant have!
If that is why she took him back, then no, this particular pair won't work. Doesn't mean you should take him back though.
she wanted to rekindle right after the settlement ran out.
lets get together yeah yeah yeah. sing it.
amazing how some can turn it off and on just like a faucet.
she wanted to rekindle right after the settlement ran out.
lets get together yeah yeah yeah. sing it.
amazing how some can turn it off and on just like a faucet.
It may be able to work if you can identify issues as though looking at the relationship as if it were brand new: taking a critical look on what is there that works, what is there that needs committed work, and what is there that is a deal-breaker. There is absolutely familiarity and friendliness, but this must be paired with what lead to the demise of the relationship the first time around. There MUST be an equal commitment from both for change and I would even suggest going to extended counseling, including spiritual, individual, and couple's work. Without the same, there really is no sane rationale.
Then, after all is said and done, visit a lawyer and get a pre-nup. The pre-nup will keep it fair and legal if and when the relationship tanks again.
With such promise as herein suggested, I would say from a personal point of view, this would not work for me. Too many bad memories. It's like seeing road kill or aged persons unclothed private body parts: there is never sufficient compensation for unpleasant visual icons.
You loved the person then..seeing love is forever...you love the person now...even more so..Divorce is a social and legal issue..It is made worse by those that thrive on the industry. People bicker over children...money and property...and in their hearts they all regret it later..be your own person and do what YOU want to do- not what some system pushes you to do...Just be kind and forget about the past..and one gentle kiss will cure all.. besides you have a history.
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