Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Because there are plenty of women who don't believe (or even know about) the "league" concept, and are looking for good guys, nice guys, but those guys never approach them because they're convinced they're not in the same "league".
I am skeptical of this - at least where I live - because the women I've encountered are very much into status or 'leagues'. Perhaps DC IS different than most other areas of the country in this regard.
Speaking of 'leagues' I got shot down the other day by a woman who is overweight and not exactly 'all that' in the face. She was below my 'league'. What was that again about woman wanting 'good' guys?
I am skeptical of this - at least where I live - because the women I've encountered are very much into status or 'leagues'. Perhaps DC IS different than most other areas of the country in this regard.
Speaking of 'leagues' I got shot down the other day by a woman who is overweight and not exactly 'all that' in the face. She was below my 'league'. What was that again about woman wanting 'good' guys?
Sorry to hear this, Rabbit. hm...status-based "leagues". I never thought of it that way. Don't give up, though, keep trying. (You never know, maybe she was already in a relationship.) I thought the "league" concept was based purely on looks, other things being more or less equal. When I think about it, I'd have to agree with you, about status playing a role to some extent. Except that if both people are in weekend clothes, jeans, or whatever, there would be no status indicators. Maybe I've lived in Berkeley and New Mexico too long. Everything's casual.
I saw a guy in a grocery store, dressed in skateboarder clothes (he looked to be close to 40) try to chat up a woman dressed like a banker or lawyer. Needless to say, it didn't work out. So, yes, you're right about that sort of thing. I was thinking the "league" thing was based purely on looks, but maybe there's more to it than that.
What if she's "too attractive" and is interested in you, because she can see or sense that you have good qualities? Why would being "too attractive" mean she wouldn't be interested in you? Is this another one of those "league" things? Because there are plenty of women who don't believe (or even know about) the "league" concept, and are looking for good guys, nice guys, but those guys never approach them because they're convinced they're not in the same "league".
Here's a question: are attractive women unapproachable? Your response would indicate that you think they are, and according to some women I've talked to, you're not alone in thinking that way.
Then if there is no chemistry between us, it won't work out. Women who are too attractive will most likely men who are too attractive also.
I don't believe in the league system though. Look at celebrities, they don't go for folks who don't have high status. How come?
If women went for good guys, 'nice guys' then would not come here on this board. Sure, many of them are shy but common sense says women to approach the guy they want, they don't. It is like getting a job in a competition, it won't come to you.
Attractive women are approachable, every woman is different plus I am also South Asian so lot of women are racist.
Guys, when you see a girl that you find attractive and are interested in, what are some of the thoughts going through your head as you talk to her? do you think about nothing but sex or ponder if she's relationship material?
When I talk to a guy I obsess over what is going through his head, wondering how attractive he finds me.
Good question.
I talk to her and find out if she's relationship material OR just a potential sex partner for the evening. This mostly involves body language.
Now, sometimes a sex partner for the evening actually turns into a relationship.
I don't obsess over whether or not a girl finds me attractive. Women can be hard to read, sometimes being quiet means uninterested sometimes it means the girl is shy, but either way things tend to work themselves out.
Guys, when you see a girl that you find attractive and are interested in, what are some of the thoughts going through your head as you talk to her? do you think about nothing but sex or ponder if she's relationship material?
If I'm already attracted to and interested in her, all I'm thinking is "Gotta impress, gotta impress, no no, gotta pay attention to... whatever she just said!"
If women went for good guys, 'nice guys' then would not come here on this board.
ROFL!!! You said a mouthful! haha! ^_^ I've noticed there's not too many "nice" guys here, but the few that do show up get noticed. Their posts stand out for their common sense.
What kind of South Asian are you? Most South Asians are great people and great looking. Some of the guys here concur. Maybe you've been visiting the wrong threads.
Yeah, caught you on the other thread ("Ladies, come clean and admit.."). Nice work.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
