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Known this girl for about a year now. Several months back, she sent a bunch of drunk texts... one of which mentioned that she had a crush on me when we first met (or something along those lines). We didn't chat much for a few months (not for this reason, just a natural lull), but when I mentioned that I was moving to the same city as her a few weeks back, she has started initiating conversations almost every day -- she seems to be really excited that I'm moving (e.g., she mentions all these food places / activities she wants to do). A seemingly relevant detail: for some reason, she mentions dates she's been on.
I have to admit, I've never been interested in her and the amount of conversations can become a bit overbearing (she's certainly not on the same level of friendship with other friends that I talk to very often)... which leads me to my next question: admittedly, I've been getting a bit desperate w/r/t intimate female contact (getting girls has never been a strong point of mine -- never been on a date, e.g.). If she is interested in me, is it wrong for me to try to fool around a bit? And if it is wrong, how should I handle the situation?
Known this girl for about a year now. Several months back, she sent a bunch of drunk texts... one of which mentioned that she had a crush on me when we first met (or something along those lines). We didn't chat much for a few months (not for this reason, just a natural lull), but when I mentioned that I was moving to the same city as her a few weeks back, she has started initiating conversations almost every day -- she seems to be really excited that I'm moving (e.g., she mentions all these food places / activities she wants to do). A seemingly relevant detail: for some reason, she mentions dates she's been on.
I have to admit, I've never been interested in her and the amount of conversations can become a bit overbearing (she's certainly not on the same level of friendship with other friends that I talk to very often)... which leads me to my next question: admittedly, I've been getting a bit desperate w/r/t intimate female contact (getting girls has never been a strong point of mine -- never been on a date, e.g.). If she is interested in me, is it wrong for me to try to fool around a bit? And if it is wrong, how should I handle the situation?
Of course it's wrong - and you know it.
A real man doesn't use a woman for his own pleasure when he knows he has zero interest in her as a person, especially when he knows that she does have feelings for him.
she sent you a bunch of "drunk texts"?...just stick with your original thoughts "I've never been interested in her"....and if you do go with her....like Caltovegas said..."just make sure you wrap up"
OP: Don't read into it too much, you need to live by the words of Just Go With It.
I'm guilty of this too so I understand your viewpoint. Take it one step at a time. Move to the city. Get settled in. Give her a call and meet up for drinks or food or something. TAKE IT FROM THERE. Stop thinking too far ahead, you don't know what this girl wants or where things will lead.
If you guys eventually hook up, wait until you that point to decide how you feel before you start making decisions of what's right and wrong. Use your own judgment. Go with your gut feeling. Do what makes you happy.
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