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I don't know if this belongs in relationship or somewhere else. I guess it could go in here because it has to do with interpersonal relationships.
I post a lot on internet forums... I mentioned that I was sort of a hermit and that no one comes over to my house. Two other people mentioned that if they were my neighbor they would think I was involved in illegal activity.
To me that is crazy. Don't you have to KNOW people and SOCIALIZE in order to do something illegal? I wouldn't even know how to buy pot since I have no connections. I never drank alcohol even when younger cause I was never invited anywhere... hence I NEVER dealt with peer pressure when younger. You need peers/friends first. How can I do illegal stuff when I don't know anyone? lol
Is it really that unusual for someone to be a hermit and have no guests/family come over that neighbors will think you are up to no good?
If you must know the truth, I have been a loner even in high school already; I used to hide in the library and eat in there. I have ALWAYS been a loner because that's just how I am.
I spend a lot of my time online on forums.... despite the fact that I am anti-social. Some of the people on the forum that I posted on could not understand the fact why I would post on a relationship forum when I was anti social. Apparently they don't know the distinction between online interaction and real-life interaction. Just because I'm anti social in person doesn't mean I can't enjoy posting in relationship forums!
Anyways, I just was insulted that people said that hermits must be doing something illegal... They also refused to believe that a hermit could be good looking... since many said that good looking people generally attract lots of friends/people and thus it was impossible to be a good looking female hermit...
I am not a TOTAL hermit; I leave the house to go shopping, grocery, exercise... I just mean a hermit in terms of never going out on the weekends and no one coming over...
Is it really THAT unusual for an attractive female to always be home alone and choose to be single/alone and never have people come over? (No one has come over once in over a year) Jeez
I find it insulting. Personally I think it's more suspicious when people have guests over all the time. I think that my neighbors should be happy to have a neighbor who is quiet like a mouse like me.
Is it that shocking to not have any friends that people think you are doing something illegal? I find that insulting and a reflection of how society judges people who are loners..
Last edited by jackie100; 04-22-2012 at 10:41 PM..
I, for one, don't care one bit what my neighbors are up to and wouldn't even notice if my neighbors are always out/in/whatever. Chances are your neighbors aren't judging you in any way, so relax.
I, for one, don't care one bit what my neighbors are up to and wouldn't even notice if my neighbors are always out/in/whatever. Chances are your neighbors aren't judging you in any way, so relax.
No, it wasn't my neighbors but people on a different forum (another relationship forum).... I mentioned on the forum that I was a hermit and some of the posters mentioned they would be suspicious IF they were my neighbor... I can't ask them what they meant because I got banned from that forum. The guy who started the topic said he only noticed that his neighbor was quiet because she was super attractive and hot... so that's why he thought it was abnormal.
I wrote that I'm a hermit but also attractive... and then everyone accused me of lying and said I was probably lying about being attractive..
I guess I don't care as much as to what my neighbors think; more about the attitude of those people on the forums...
No, it wasn't my neighbors but people on a different forum (another relationship forum).... I mentioned on the forum that I was a hermit and some of the posters mentioned they would be suspicious IF they were my neighbor... I can't ask them what they meant because I got banned from that forum.
Why would you care what random people on the Internet think, if your actual neighbors are fine with your lifestyle?
Why would you care what random people on the Internet think, if your actual neighbors are fine with your lifestyle?
I dunno... lol
It's just something to debate; that's all. Like many people debate on City Data about topics all the time. If those people had that thought that then I am sure that others in the "real world" may have that same train of thought. It just bothers me; that's all. I just find that the world is judgmental of those who want to be alone, never want to get married, want to be single, don't have a lot of friends etc.
I was just curious of that was a common train of thought.
No, it wasn't my neighbors but people on a different forum (another relationship forum).... I mentioned on the forum that I was a hermit and some of the posters mentioned they would be suspicious IF they were my neighbor... I can't ask them what they meant because I got banned from that forum. The guy who started the topic said he only noticed that his neighbor was quiet because she was super attractive and hot... so that's why he thought it was abnormal.
I wrote that I'm a hermit but also attractive... and then everyone accused me of lying and said I was probably lying about being attractive..
In my opinion, internet forums aren't the nicest of places because people are emboldened to be brutally honest and sometimes rude when they can remain anonymous. If you are uncomfortable with people judging you and making unfair comments, you should probably avoid discussing yourself on forums or avoid forums.
In my opinion, internet forums aren't the nicest of places because people are emboldened to be brutally honest and sometimes rude when they can remain anonymous. If you are uncomfortable with people judging you and making unfair comments, you should probably avoid discussing yourself on forums or avoid forums.
I've been posting on internet forums for the past 10 years on different ones so I'm well aware of what goes on. I am not uncomfortable; just trying to understand their point of view or how they would come to such a conclusion.
It's just something to debate; that's all. Like many people debate on City Data about topics all the time. If those people had that thought that then I am sure that others in the "real world" may have that same train of thought. It just bothers me; that's all. I just find that the world is judgmental of those who want to be alone, never want to get married, want to be single, don't have a lot of friends etc.
I was just curious of that was a common train of thought.
I can't help you out with the "common train of thought" part of your concern since, like I previously mentioned, I don't pay too attention to my neighbors' activities until they become acquaintances.
I can't help you out with the "common train of thought" part of your concern since, like I previously mentioned, I don't pay too attention to my neighbors' activities until they become acquaintances.
Understood... I think the people who I mentioned only noticed because the neighbor was really good looking... if it was a plain woman they would not have noticed but since the woman was attractive they though it was extremely odd that she was a hermit.
So it seems like if you are average then no one cares but if you are very good looking then MALES (male neighbors) will notice and wonder what's going on and why you have no life...
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