News, Older women and younger men: Can it Work? (Asian, mature, problems)

[MuscogeeButterfly]

Originally Posted by Karen B BSRN

Art,

Voluntary celibacy is a choice likely due not to natural instincts.

Eating, drinking water, being intimate are all natural functions of
life and for some of us a necessary part of healthy intimacy;
to me it is not sex at all but a product of LOVE which is what I'd
like to hear more about for those who have experienced it.

The positive changes that occur as a result to a good
connection (LOVE) literally redefine roles and purpose.

Your choice may or may not be positive dependent on reasons.
However, you can share that here if you like.

Karen B.

Heading to bed for some healthy eating!

Karen, you are too funny. Finally, another that thinks like me!!

[MuscogeeButterfly]

Originally Posted by FlightAttendant

I am about to marry a guy 13 years my junior (marriage date mid Oct). We have been an "item" for 8 years. Isnt it funny, a guy can date a girl that much younger and he gets high-fives. Let a woman do it and she is robbing the cradle, trying to recapture her youth, etc.....

He and I are happy and we have gotten along for many years. What is the big deal?

You go girl!

[onegreatnurse]

Well I'm dating one 12 years younger so..we'll see what happens I guess!

[Ladywithafan]

It's still working after a year...

[Karen B BSRN]

The statistics show that 1/3 of all SERIOUS relationships are OW/ym for all the above mentioned reasons and my husband (and I've always fallen into the adage) who is younger than most I've
dated has more maturity in many ways than any of the older men I've either been married to,
and or dated.

Biologic yes women hit prime from late 30's until death.

Men do bottom out at 25 some get better and stay baseline!

But sex is just that; intimacy is an entirely different category and with that
comes love.

If any of ya'll have reached that place and I know many have and avoid the
limelight please share with us all!!

Karen B.

[Karen B BSRN]

Well thank you!!

And then when you take the thinking, to the doing,
the BEING, and the living it's all there....

My worst fear (that is when you know in the early
stages it's love) is that I likely will die before him, and
yes ours is a large difference in years but when it comes
to the physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual,
those items that contribute to that we call LOVE there
is no difference in fact he's the man, and it took a lot
for one to walk in my life who sliced my "gnads."

Karen B.

Originally Posted by MuscogeeButterfly

Karen, you are too funny. Finally, another that thinks like me!!

[Karen B BSRN]

LOL find yourself a chick any age!

You sound so negative it can't be all that bad!

Karen B.

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

good post very informative.
its means these women have money and so they are going for what is next.
as guys get older they trust less another reason they are not as much fun.

[Karen B BSRN]

One Great,

Don't let anyone on the outside change the heart
meaning "age is a number" and even though family
and friends may accept they will stab you in the
back with what they think they know.

It is touch and go at times for we all have feelings,
but as a dear friend of mine reminded me long ago,
"Karen feelings may feel like death but they are gone
within 10 minutes of starting so never fear those
suckers." Yet we do remember those moments
in particular us females who were socialized even though
some like us in professional nursing have reached
pinnacles of leadership and financial independence
beyond most men.

Hell I was injured in 98 and my man and I married on
dirt and with the present economy and a poor choice
of a gig in NM (wanna go home to Texas) we are
rubbing pennies together now but no matter what we
stay put. When I have lost my mind and threatened
divorce (and man that sucks to do to someone you
love) he tells me "no never" and it goes away and he is
the only man in so many areas in so many ways he is
IT.

Good luck to you just let it flow!

Karen B.

Originally Posted by onegreatnurse

Well I'm dating one 12 years younger so..we'll see what happens I guess!

[Karen B BSRN]

Dear Lady,

We don't need to grade LOVE right. The rest
of the folks who are miserable, jealous, don't
know what you have somehow that makes you
so attractive to that cute guy well they don't
know LOVE.

When I realized I loved Steven I realized that I
had always loved him and no one came near to
the combination of feelings, actions, and
behaviors that came next and do today. We
are the missing part of one another or better yet
we are the WHOLE that exists in God's world, that
gift between two people and it is LOVE.

We all tend to be so self critical or worry and
you know if he is with you and loves you then you
can honestly say there is nothing like this in your
world, and what world without him.

I was shocked to see how intense this was with
my husband and I for he is just that way about me,
and for those throwing stale olives from old half
drank martini's at us, well stand back! LOVE is a
gift and just as God loves us unconditionally we have
that choice to love a person in our lifetime without
restraint, creatively and naturally.

You are a couple!

Karen B.

Originally Posted by Ladywithafan

It's still working after a year...

[Tia 914]

Originally Posted by Karen B BSRN

Dear Lady,

We don't need to grade LOVE right. The rest
of the folks who are miserable, jealous, don't
know what you have somehow that makes you
so attractive to that cute guy well they don't
know LOVE.

When I realized I loved Steven I realized that I
had always loved him and no one came near to
the combination of feelings, actions, and
behaviors that came next and do today. We
are the missing part of one another or better yet
we are the WHOLE that exists in God's world, that
gift between two people and it is LOVE.

We all tend to be so self critical or worry and
you know if he is with you and loves you then you
can honestly say there is nothing like this in your
world, and what world without him.

I was shocked to see how intense this was with
my husband and I for he is just that way about me,
and for those throwing stale olives from old half
drank martini's at us, well stand back! LOVE is a
gift and just as God loves us unconditionally we have
that choice to love a person in our lifetime without
restraint, creatively and naturally.

You are a couple!

Karen B.

right on!!