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Alot of people have this wrong. Love between mother and child is unconditional. Love between husband and wife is always conditional. He treats you like crap and cheats and does drugs, and love will fade. Love is based on conditions, mutual respect, trust, etc. Just my take on it.
There are parents who kick their kids out for becoming atheist/openly gay/fundie/goth, etc. all the time. Parental love is not guaranteed to be unconditional.
We've talked often about loving being blind and perfect but is love unconditional? Do you truly love someone no matter what? Despite the pitfalls of being in love do you keep loving someone after they cheated on you? Lied to you about something for so long? Etc. When does loving STOP being unconditional? Is such a thing even possible?
Unconditional love is something you give to your children. Very few relationships/marriages are unconditional love when the SHTF, without a strong foundation.
Unless you want to talk DV, and most them are copendents who'll tolerate far more than they should.
You can love someone but not tolerate certain behaviors (such as cheating, abuse) from them. Unconditional love doesn't mean accepting everything, and just cause you don't accept everything doesn't mean you don't love a person unconditionally.
We've talked often about loving being blind and perfect but is love unconditional? Do you truly love someone no matter what? Despite the pitfalls of being in love do you keep loving someone after they cheated on you? Lied to you about something for so long? Etc. When does loving STOP being unconditional? Is such a thing even possible?
Heck no.. Today cheating can lead to a disease.. as for a lie it depends. If I'm led to believe a child is mine and he/she isn't that's grounds to leave for me. Drug addiction I'm out.
I'm just saying the bonding doesn't always work. Some mothers aren't able to bond. We tend to idealize the mother-child relationship, like we tend to idealize marriage. Reality can be very different from the ideal.
I'm just saying the bonding doesn't always work. Some mothers aren't able to bond. We tend to idealize the mother-child relationship, like we tend to idealize marriage. Reality can be very different from the ideal.
Very true. As someone who missed out on that for 3 years (I'm adopted) I know how important it is to have that bond, but adoptees are hardly the only kids who miss out on that. A lot of people do grow up in insensitive parenting situations, whether that's being in an orphanage, foster home, or just having abusive, neglectful, or absent parents.
I'm just saying the bonding doesn't always work. Some mothers aren't able to bond. We tend to idealize the mother-child relationship, like we tend to idealize marriage. Reality can be very different from the ideal.
My point too.
The others seem to be saying though that when love IS unconditional it only really happens in the mother/child scenario.
While I do agree it happens most often between mother and child, it can happen in other relationships too. In other words, it does exist.
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