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I'm struggling with it though. First off, I can't sympathize with any woman who thinks a man is suppose to marry them because they have a kid together, I never knew she felt this way. Secondly, how dare she imply that me not wanting kids is some flaw men should be repulsed by? I feel she got it backwards: men should be repulsed by women trying to trap them by having their child. They've been broken up for 4 years, she doesn't have a right to be upset. I WANT to be sympathetic but it's eluding me.
He takes care of his child by leaving the child and then starting new families?
Right.
This line of b.s. would never fly if it were a woman who left her child and went and started a new family.
By the way, how is it you know all about the childish ex but now you say we can't possibly know about the fiance?
leaving his child?
he had a kid with someone that theyre both raising that's not leaving your child
we knows she's childish because of how she reacted to this news
if the op comes back and says he neglects his kid,doesnt pay child support etc then ill drastically change my opinion on him and she would be a fool for marrying him
but i'm not gonna bash him for doing nothing wrong
and the whole "would never fly if the woman left her child" nonsense
men in this country get bashed for being deadbeat dads and rightfully so
they belong in jail
there are also plenty of worthless mothers that ignore there children and pay no child support to the men that take care of them and nobody-not society or the legal system gives a **** so spare me the bull****
It continually boggles my mind that there are actually women out there that think having an accidental pregnancy/baby will make their man want to stay with them forever and marry them. I really don't get it.
let me guess, no children ??
If a man truly loves his child, he'll always love the childs mother. And the reason is as simple as NO OTHER women would have been able to produce that child as they are today...
While I agree with you that this could just be the beginning of the drama (and one reason why she should have a LONG engagement), child support doesn't work like that.
No court is going to go after a new spouses income. They only assess the non-custodial parent based on what they alone earn (or should earn if they worked full time).
Even if a new spouse's income isn't included in child support, unless they work out the sharing of expenses a new spouse's income would help make up for what goes out from the supporting parent. That would be another thing I would suggest addressing before committing to a childed person (not that such a thing would ever happen to me. hell-to-the-no on that )
If a man truly loves his child, he'll always love the childs mother. And the reason is as simple as NO OTHER women would have been able to produce that child as they are today...
he'll love his child
the loving the woman forever part is comical at best
If a man truly loves his child, he'll always love the child's mother. And the reason is as simple as NO OTHER women would have been able to produce that child as they are today...
Just because a woman gives birth to a mans child does that automatically entitle her to his "Love" the rest of her life. He may be grateful for the kid but have no feelings for the babies momma (or vice versa).
I have not read everything, but do not get sucked in.
You need to maintain a cordial relationship with you husband to be's child's mother, since you will have a relationship with the child. He must be the person to coordinate this.
Be polite, but apart from the drama.
If she were just a random lay who got knocked up, why would she have had a lengthy convo with his Grandma? .....Baby Mama was talking to an ally.
She recruited a flying monkey. I suppose Grandma might have a fear that she'll be given less access to her g-grandchild since there's no chance now of her grandson marrying the girl, but she needs to be told to butt out.
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