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Here's a simple enough question with a not so simple answer.
Who are you attracted to? Women, what attracts you to a man? Do you search for a specific feature, multiple, or are you willing to just jump the random guy walking down the street? Same question to the guys being attracted to the woman.
Now, once you've gotten to know the person after several dates, what do you become more attracted to? Is it still the body, or can the personality or intelligence of the person overwhelm everything else?
Be as descriptive as you want! I'm not making a pole since there's too many options in these questions!
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Most of the time, I don't know precisely what attracts me to someone. I just feel something good around/with them. I enjoy being in their presence. If that's the case, I try not to over analyze it and just go with it. Therefore, there are so many different types of men I like.
There's no specific thing, I would say. It's just something that happens. I have weird taste in men and it's always a surprise to me and others who I am attracted to. For example, I can be attracted to a very cute guy, but also see the beauty in some guys that are not exactly good looking. I can definitely see myself dating a really hot guy and still keeping an eye on some other guy who isn't cute by anyone's standards. It's just something that happens, I never force it. There's usually something about them.
Here's a simple enough question with a not so simple answer.
Who are you attracted to? Women, what attracts you to a man? Do you search for a specific feature, multiple, or are you willing to just jump the random guy walking down the street? Same question to the guys being attracted to the woman.
Now, once you've gotten to know the person after several dates, what do you become more attracted to? Is it still the body, or can the personality or intelligence of the person overwhelm everything else?
Be as descriptive as you want! I'm not making a pole since there's too many options in these questions!
Who am I attracted to? My Husband.
What attracts me to a man in general? I prefer Blanch Deveroux's description from The Golden Girls. - "I just LOVE a tight man! Cast iron pecs, thighs that could choke a bear and a butt you could eat breakfast off of!"
Overtime what do I become more attracted to? Compatability. If a man shaves his chest hair, smokes or if I discover something else that is a deal breaker he is gone in a heartbeat. I need a man I can live with and whom I am comfortable being around. Personality and intelligence is key. Especially if we have similar tastes and hobbies.
Many things.
1. facial features, eyes, hair
2. height
3. how they walk
4.manners
5.how they act
6. how they dress
7. Treat family
8. personality
9. funny
Way too many things for me to write down without treating this like a serious school assignment.
Let's see... she has to look appealing to me. That doesn't mean she has to fit into a very specific body type, I find myself physically attracted to women of several shapes and sizes. Probably the most important feature really is the face though. That's one common thread between all the women I've found very pretty/hot/attractive. They just have really nice faces! I figure that's what you're gonna be looking at most of the time so yeah it's important to me.
The personality really does it for me though. I can think of one girl who I was into last year (friend zoned). She's cute but not a "smokeshow" as they say. But as I got to know her more I found myself liking her more and more. Intelligence is important too, she doesn't have to be einstein but she has to be smart. A friend of mine knows a LOT about biology and I'm not gonna lie, there's something nice about when she starts explaining **** to me... intelligence is very attractive.
It's definitely a holistic thing for me. I know what's an attractive girl for me when I see and get to know one.
What initially attracts me physically is height, good posture and broad shoulders. I am 5'8", so short guys don't do it for me. Any man I'm attracted to will always be over 6 feet. I also like a pleasant face.
However, I'm not attracted to just any tall man who is physically appealing. The men that I will actually want to go out with are somewhat bold. They are not shy about approaching me, and show me right away that they are interested and want to get to know me. He has to be a good conversationalist, otherwise I will lose interest.
As we spend more time together, other things that will increase and sustain my attraction to him are intelligence, personality, good manners, kindness, and similar values.
For it to lead to marriage, he has to make me feel like I am the most important person in his life.
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I'm attracted to men who are secure in themselves. I don't like men who are loud or cocky. I like a man who is funny, smart and treats people well. A man who is interested in me and what I have to say and think. I like a man with a healthy appetite who is still fit and loves to travel and experience new things.
Physically...that's a hard one, as it has changed greatly...and really depends on the person. Hmmm...however, I think Hugh Laurie is absolutely sexy and unbelievably appealing. I would be all over him in a hot minute...
Thankfully, Hubby understands...
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who am I attracted to? hmmm
