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Wow, reading these posts have given me a lot to think about, and are causing me to overthink/over-anaylze more and are making me more confused. I really do love and care for this girl. You just have to understand where I'm coming from, I've been hurt and played in the past so that's why I'm a little insecure. I've also been given advice that I should avoid relationships that have drama. Also for those who say I should go see her right now, it's not like a few hours drive. She's in Japan and I'm in Italy, about a 12 hour flight.
I think what I can do now is send her a heart-felt email, even though she hasn't replied to my last email. We'll see where it goes from there.
Wow. Now THAT'S a long distance relationship!
Yeah international relationships are even harder due to legal barriers so you can scratch my suggestion of just moving in together before marriage to see how you do. I'm sure if you guys are meant to be then you'll figure out a way to make it work though.
I dont mean to probe but I spent about six months in Japan (Ikebukuro area in Tokyo) so I know that SOME (but more than what we see here) Japanese men have a perverse sexual appetite (i.e. Chikan, or men who grope women on crowded subway trains) which is a shame because most women I met there were very sweet and sincere. If this or some other sexual crime happened to your girlfriend then I'm very sorry for her.
If you can't be with her at her worst, you don't deserve her at her best.
She deserves to be respected and loved even with emotional problems. Believe me, everyone has baggage, you just have to choose the ones you can deal with.
Wow, reading these posts have given me a lot to think about, and are causing me to overthink/over-anaylze more and are making me more confused. I really do love and care for this girl. You just have to understand where I'm coming from, I've been hurt and played in the past so that's why I'm a little insecure. I've also been given advice that I should avoid relationships that have drama. Also for those who say I should go see her right now, it's not like a few hours drive. She's in Japan and I'm in Italy, about a 12 hour flight.
I think what I can do now is send her a heart-felt email, even though she hasn't replied to my last email. We'll see where it goes from there.
Are there no phones in Italy and Japan?! Or Skype perhaps, if it's that great of an expense for somebody you supposedly care about?! Good grief!
She may be in a hospital, may have a family emergency, anything and everything can happen... But Mr. Loving is staging the END!
Wow, reading these posts have given me a lot to think about, and are causing me to overthink/over-anaylze more and are making me more confused. I really do love and care for this girl. You just have to understand where I'm coming from, I've been hurt and played in the past so that's why I'm a little insecure. I've also been given advice that I should avoid relationships that have drama. Also for those who say I should go see her right now, it's not like a few hours drive. She's in Japan and I'm in Italy, about a 12 hour flight.
I think what I can do now is send her a heart-felt email, even though she hasn't replied to my last email. We'll see where it goes from there.
1. I would venture a guess that most of us have been screwed over at one point or another. You learn from it and move on. Bringing your insecurities into your current relationship isn't doing either of you any favors.
2. A legitimate medical condition is not the same as "drama". Drama refers to behaviors such as backstabbing, sh*t-stirring, blowing everything out of proportion, and the like. Avoiding unnecessary BS isn't the same as leaving the moment that things become the least bit inconvenient.
How long have you two been dating? Also, has she received a bona fide diagnosis of PTSD, and has she been seeking treatment?
I dont mean to probe but I spent about six months in Japan (Ikebukuro area in Tokyo) so I know that SOME (but more than what we see here) Japanese men have a perverse sexual appetite (i.e. Chikan, or men who grope women on crowded subway trains)
That's a crime of opportunity. It's everywhere. In Mexico City, decades ago now, they instituted separate subway cars for men and women. It can happen almost anywhere in the world on a crowded bus.
Japan. Italy. Are you sure about this, OP? Are you sure it's not your imagination that's idealizing her? Absence makes the heart grow fonder, mainly because it lets the imagination run wild. Glossing over her faults, and playing up the fond memories. Whatever the case, you don't sound ready for this.
Hey everyone! It's been awhile since I posted on here looking for relationship advice, but right now I'm going through a bump in my relationship. It's a long distance relationship, but I felt that we were meant for each other. I feel like she is the closest to the perfect girl I could find: she's beautiful, sweet, caring, has a great personality and sense of humor, and (I'll try to keep this PG-13) she is very satisfying in the bedroom, the best I ever had. The only problem is that she has PTSD from an experience in her past (she was a victim of a crime). A few times, she has had an episode for a few days at a time in which she is very depressed and acts very distant. This time, it has been really bad. I haven't even heard from for 2 days (we usually email each other once a day). Now I'm debating if I should stay with her or end our relationship now. Also, I've already bought a ring. Now I'm thinking I should return it.
Enjoy the moment and proceed with caution. It could blossom into something great or it could be the typically twist ending horror film. Proceed with caution.
That's a crime of opportunity. It's everywhere. In Mexico City, decades ago now, they instituted separate subway cars for men and women. It can happen almost anywhere in the world on a crowded bus.
Japan. Italy. Are you sure about this, OP? Are you sure it's not your imagination that's idealizing her? Absence makes the heart grow fonder, mainly because it lets the imagination run wild. Glossing over her faults, and playing up the fond memories. Whatever the case, you don't sound ready for this.
It is. They were talking about designating women only train cars right before I left in Japan too. I heard they passed it.
Not just that though but male dominance runs deep in Japanese culture in everything to women's rights which haven't really taken off there yet, to even the adult entertainment industry. Rape is a very common theme in Japanese porn.
Are there no phones in Italy and Japan?! Or Skype perhaps, if it's that great of an expense for somebody you supposedly care about?! Good grief!
She may be in a hospital, may have a family emergency, anything and everything can happen... But Mr. Loving is staging the END!
Y'all don't think I tried calling her? It went straight to voice mail. She also never logged on Skype. My guess is she may be in the hospital, and I'm hoping for nothing worse. In that case her phone would be off and wouldn't receive my emails either. She also hasn't been on Facebook.
As I mentioned from my past experiences, not hearing back from a girl usually means they are blowing me off and they don't even have the common courtesy to verbally tell me its over. I've had one GF who didn't answer the phone and never returned my calls and expected me to just take the hint.
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