Where you find happiness

[Hawk J]

Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd

Of course. But it's much easier to want to make the ones we know and love happy. Not as true with total strangers.

Say Howdy to strangers, say "Have a Great Day" with a positive attitude.

Do a good turn daily = Boy Scout slogan

[redvelvet709]

Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd

Just a thought; I find it odd that if you find happiness in making others happy--if it really fulfills you--you're a good person. Yet, if you find happiness in making your romantic partner happy, you're weak...clingy...you have no life....

Ha, I see your point there. There is truly a happy medium. It deals in the expectation factor.
Giving just for the sake of giving implies a selflessness. I am not sure how many of us really give that way. Even the good feelings we get from doing something for others is a return on the investment.

As far as giving to your partner, that is the way we are supposed to be in a healthy relationship. But if you make anyone happy at your own expense, that is where the weak factors in. If you make someone else happy in order to feel more secure in your relationship, than that is desperation. But giving because you happen to love another above yourself, or because you believe in the concept, is a good thing!

[strawberrykiki]

Interesting question! I've been reading a book by the Dalai Lama and he says the best way to be happy is to make others happy. I think there's a line between making your partner happy, but not at the expense of your own happiness.

[Shankapotomus]

Originally Posted by Pikantari

Whyte Byrd I have never ever thought of this in that manner. Huh.

I am they type of person who DOES find happiness in making other people happy, smile, etc. I also find it in making my SO happy.

I have never thought of it as making me weak or clingy but now that you have brought it up, I suppose many people do look at it that way.

Poo to them, lol.

Where would the world be if people did not want to see others happy? The world would come to a stop and society would fall apart.