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I had this little "online thing" (does that even count? ) with this one guy who was 44 when I was 19...I don't think I'd do that again. Not because it's about 2 years later and I can't ever be 19 again (Praise the Lord), but because there's little things that kept getting to me. His age was always showing, he was so set in his ways, he kept talking to me like I was a child and didn't hear anything I wanted to say and I felt like I was with a man more staunch and inflexible than my own father.
Now with your relationship...you might need to ask her about that and how she feels because your relationship might be different. For me, I often feel like when men get to about 32+ they start to "crystalize" in their ways? Here I am all fluid and movable and they just don't want to change and can be really imposing with it. And if you haven't dealt with your past relationship emotional baggage, oh God, that girl will have her work cut out for her.
I had this little "online thing" (does that even count? ) with this one guy who was 44 when I was 19...I don't think I'd do that again. Not because it's about 2 years later and I can't ever be 19 again (Praise the Lord), but because there's little things that kept getting to me. His age was always showing, he was so set in his ways, he kept talking to me like I was a child and didn't hear anything I wanted to say and I felt like I was with a man more staunch and inflexible than my own father.
Now with your relationship...you might need to ask her about that and how she feels because your relationship might be different. For me, I often feel like when men get to about 32+ they start to "crystalize" in their ways? Here I am all fluid and movable and they just don't want to change and can be really imposing with it. And if you haven't dealt with your past relationship emotional baggage, oh God, that girl will have her work cut out for her.
So...yeah, it depends.
Great post, great insight, thanks for sharing. Guys need to read and heed. Just confirms all I said in my prior lengthy post about things you should know in handling age differences.
So I met this woman, she great, beautiful, fun, and so full of life! Wonderful laugh...I met her about six months ago, and recently we starting dating...she's 21 and I'm 36....is that too much of a difference, I think it is...I don't know , give me ur thoughts...
Don't think about it too hard and just enjoy life.
I'll agree with everyone else who said it's all about maturity and life experiences. When I was 21, I wouldn't have been ready for a relationship with someone who was 36 even if I thought I was (but that's talking about a serious, long-term relationship I guess). I think differences in how we perceived ourselves and the world around us would have been too great.
That said, between 21 and 24 I grew up a lot. I went through some very tough situations that happened one after the other and that no one my age could relate to. I grew up pretty quickly, and I'm MUCH more mature than I was a few years ago. So I think at 21, 15 years would've been no go, but at 24 it would've been fine because my maturity level jumped. So I don't think there is a clear answer. It all depends.
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) with this one guy who was 44 when I was 19...I don't think I'd do that again. Not because it's about 2 years later and I can't ever be 19 again (Praise the Lord), but because there's little things that kept getting to me. His age was always showing, he was so set in his ways, he kept talking to me like I was a child and didn't hear anything I wanted to say and I felt like I was with a man more staunch and inflexible than my own father.
