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...especially if the guy cheats or the guy is the one who ends it, that a girl is highly likely to engage in casual sex?
I can only speak for myself, but my ex-husband cheated on me and left, and for several months, I could barely bring myself to go out of the house, other than to work. The world beyond my front door became a very scary place, and the last thing I wanted was to be around people, let alone another guy for a random hookup. Once I regained my equilibrium, the first night a friend and I went out, I took one look at the guys ogling us from their barstools and wanted to run home and hide again.
When you're cheated on, it can shake you to the core, it's a violation, and it's not something you bounce back from immediately. I would be very wary of someone who could just "get over it" and throw themselves back into dating/having sex immediately. IMO, that's someone who is avoiding their issues rather than dealing with them, and isn't in the best frame of mind to be involving themselves with others.
I can only speak for myself, but my ex-husband cheated on me and left, and for several months, I could barely bring myself to go out of the house, other than to work. The world beyond my front door became a very scary place, and the last thing I wanted was to be around people, let alone another guy for a random hookup. Once I regained my equilibrium, the first night a friend and I went out, I took one look at the guys ogling us from their barstools and wanted to run home and hide again.
When you're cheated on, it can shake you to the core, it's a violation, and it's not something you bounce back from immediately. I would be very wary of someone who could just "get over it" and throw themselves back into dating/having sex immediately. IMO, that's someone who is avoiding their issues rather than dealing with them, and isn't in the best frame of mind to be involving themselves with others.
I have a friend who was cheated on supposedly multiple times by her ex who she was with for 5 years and was her first love (we met our firsts around the same time). Well, 5 months after he moved and they officially broke up, she met her current boyfriend who she seems to be very in love with. they moved in together after a month of dating. I find it really weird that this is someone who has been cheated on, that she would open up so easily to the next guy. Its kind of why I wonder if she lied about the cheating thing, she can be pathological so who knows. I wasn't even cheated on and I was shaken up pretty good when my first love went from making me his entire world to him not wanting me at all, in a split second. I still have to stop myself every time I second guess a guys desire in me and consciously stop myself from thinking "ohhh he'll change his mind in a few months like that last one did..cuase he's a man driven by lust and lust wears off" and its been a few years since him. I've gotten a lot better but ya, these things tend to scar people to a degree. so I can't imagine how shaken I'd be if I was cheated on. I'm pretty sure I would have had the same reaction as you had.
My ex dumped me about 7 months ago and I havent had any casual sex at all. Im not having it again until I get married.
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