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i did not read any of these comments beyond the OP, but i have to say that if YOU ask her to lose weight i hope to god she knocks the crap out of you. for your own safety and well being you should stop dating until such time as you grow up.
i did not read any of these comments beyond the OP, but i have to say that if YOU ask her to lose weight i hope to god she knocks the crap out of you. for your own safety and well being you should stop dating until such time as you grow up.
tell her it looks like she's spreading too much butter on her biscuits in the morning.
I don't think it's her diet at all. She just very sedentary. After weeding through the unconstructive posts, I think an exercise activity that is fun and something we can do together is probably the best way to approach this. People tend to assume the worst in people on this board, I guess because it's totally anonymous. I'm really not a bad person though we all have our faults.
For those that gave genuine advice, I intend on taking it and find an activity we can both do that get's us out of the house, that we do together but that's also exercise.
I think that IS a great approach and kudos to you for getting her to agree on a fun hike with you over the weekend. My concern is this; you say she's pretty sedentary...hopefully that won't be too much of a barrier in her keeping up with fun "exercise" activities you suggest in the long run.
I had to lose weight by myself through the hard work, and once my hubby saw I was serious, he started to join in with me and taking our son with us. In the end, it became so much fun & huge part of our lives that even my hubby who isn't overweight start to look good too!
Getting someone to do something against their will, especially when that activity requires strong determination, will and motivation is extremely tough.
Here is something you can try. Have a talk with her. Tell her that you are concerned about her health and that you are willing to do everything you can to help and let her know of your plan. The plan: Buy her a pretty dress one size smaller than her current size. If she wants to wear it, she'll have to come up with some way to lose a dress size. Once she has accomplished that, buy her another pretty dress one size smaller. Repeat until you both feel that she is healthy looking again, and burn all the old clothes.
Something else you can try is to incorporate more active activities into both of your lifestyles. Going to the gym might seem daunting to some. Take baby steps. Maybe start by walking around the block after dinner. Then some biking. Then maybe tennis. You get the idea.
Last but not least, watch both of your diet. When you go to restaurants, refrain from ordering steaks, pasta, pizza yourself so she and her salad don't get food-envy.
I don't think it's her diet at all. She just very sedentary. After weeding through the unconstructive posts, I think an exercise activity that is fun and something we can do together is probably the best way to approach this. People tend to assume the worst in people on this board, I guess because it's totally anonymous. I'm really not a bad person though we all have our faults.
For those that gave genuine advice, I intend on taking it and find an activity we can both do that get's us out of the house, that we do together but that's also exercise.
Are you in Nova? why not just ditch the car and get on the metro, use it to walk through some parts of DC (along the mall etc, museums are free).
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