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The problem with addiction isn't that it's as simple as you say.
Addiction is often about self-medication, underlaying depression. It's not really as easy as telling an alcoholic that they're just selfish and need to think of others and voila! they will no longer have that craving.
I really don't think that food addiction is nearly as bad as alcoholism. Giving up unhealthy food is much, much easier than giving up alcohol.
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What about the childhood of the chubby? Maybe food became associated with parental love and approval at some point. There are mothers who reward a young child with food, especially sugary high fat treats.
I think most people experienced that. Doesn't mean you have to be addicted. You reach a point in your life when you realize you have to eat healthy.
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In many ways it's more difficult than alcoholism or other addiction because an alcoholic can completely give up alcohol but no one can completely give up food.
No, but you can give up junk food and sweets and stop eating for recreational purposes.
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I think your post shows the problem in the health care field also. It's not longer about compassion, or people who care about others or try to understand them, it's about people who want the good money, the jobs and who despise and resent the patients.
The problem is that too much sympathy for fat people. When 65% of the population in America is either obese or overweight, fat people SHOULD be made fun of and discriminated against as they are not only harming themselves but society as a whole. Why are gays made fund of in high school but girls with beer bellies are not?
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I really don't think that food addiction is nearly as bad as alcoholism. Giving up unhealthy food is much, much easier than giving up alcohol.
I think most people experienced that. Doesn't mean you have to be addicted. You reach a point in your life when you realize you have to eat healthy.
No, but you can give up junk food and sweets and stop eating for recreational purposes.
The problem is that too much sympathy for fat people. When 65% of the population in America is either obese or overweight, fat people SHOULD be made fun of and discriminated against as they are not only harming themselves but society as a whole. Why are gays made fund of in high school but girls with beer bellies are not?
When has totally shaming people worked in history? Has targeting gay folks made them straight?
I'm sorry if despite my overweight body I still wanted to be treated as a human being. Get over it.
I really don't think that food addiction is nearly as bad as alcoholism. Giving up unhealthy food is much, much easier than giving up alcohol.
I think most people experienced that. Doesn't mean you have to be addicted. You reach a point in your life when you realize you have to eat healthy.
No, but you can give up junk food and sweets and stop eating for recreational purposes.
The problem is that too much sympathy for fat people. When 65% of the population in America is either obese or overweight, fat people SHOULD be made fun of and discriminated against as they are not only harming themselves but society as a whole. Why are gays made fund of in high school but girls with beer bellies are not?
Fat people are made fun of already, sheesh! You need to grow up.
Find a new, thin GF. Obviously that is the answer....this GF is not acceptable to you because of her weight...accept her as she is....or move on. You can't change others. Only yourself.
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I'm sorry if I don't want to pay more for healthcare because of your laziness.
I'm sorry if I don't want food prices to go up because you need to eat twice as much as I do.
Yeah I work 40 hours a week and am in school. I also try to do a 30 min walk at least 3x a week. Yeah lazy guy here.
The only reason food prices are going up are due to weather patterns affecting crop yield and the price of gas rising which makes transportation more expensive. I'm not taking food out of anyone's mouth.
By the way, when you find your (hopefully) human heart, put it back where it belongs and shut up.
OP, she doesn't meet your standards, and may not feel the motivation to lose weight for her own benefit. That's her choice, and of course it's your choice to leave if nothing changes. I didn't read everything here, so don't know if she was already overweight when you started dating, or gained after. If she already was, then you can only blame yourself for dating her, and cannot expect her to change.
I've often noticed that the surest, most reliable and effective way to encourage someone to lose weight is to break up with them. It's almost certain they'll find the motivation to lose weight in order to attract someone new! Why they won't make efforts to stay healthy to KEEP a good relationship (assuming it is, otherwise), but will to find a new one, is one of those mysteries and absurdities of human behavior.
It may seem that way, but often people lose weight after a break-up or divorce simply because their lives and lifestyles change. They're no longer cooking big meals, having "family dinners" that encourage overeating, and so on. A lot of women would be happy with soup and a salad for dinner. Not so men. Well, if you're a bride, my greatest piece of advice for you is: Don't eat like your husband unless you want to weigh what he weighs.
Also, bad marriages and relationships entail a certain amount of stress, and stress contributes to overeating and not getting enough sleep, both of which cause weight gain. Removing the stressor and returning to your previous, happier state will work wonders for your waistline. Not only did I lose more than 20 pound without even trying after my ex moved out, my blood pressure dropped 15 points in less than two weeks. All of this, without working out or watching what I ate. It just happened.
So I was wondering what's the best way to approach this issue. Before anyone jumps on my case about how shallow I am, please note my standards of weight for women are the same standards I hold to myself. That standard is a question: "What would a doctor have to say about your weight?" While I think asking for bigger boobs, or for better legs, etc IS shallow, I don't feel like wanting a healthy and medically good weight (in proportion to height) in a partner is too much to ask, especially when the partner holds himself to the same standards.
What's your thoughts on this? I'm not asking her to become super model slim, I'm asking her to go from medically overweight, to medically normal. I don't think that's a shallow request.
Give her Oxandrolone pills but tell her they are "vitamins".
Not all Lose weight after break ups - Some gain weight.. Just wanted to add that..
Yea, that's true. Being that I'm an athlete, my X girl stayed in shape because she wanted to look good as me when naked. We would shop at Trader Joes or Whole Foods looking like the young healthy couple that we were!
But when we broke up..... Wow, she went downhill fast (lost discipline, drinking) at only the age of 24 to the point where I hardly even recognize her after about 30lbs weight gain. And sadly her new BF does not even care...
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, please note my standards of weight for women are the same standards I hold to myself. That standard is a question: "What would a doctor have to say about your weight?" While I think asking for bigger boobs, or for better legs, etc IS shallow, I don't feel like wanting a healthy and medically good weight (in proportion to height) in a partner is too much to ask, especially when the partner holds himself to the same standards.
