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I don't 'whine and complain' about meeting someone -- get your facts straight. I don't even date. As I said when you sent me that nasty PM if you have a freaking problem with me, put me on ignore and be done with it.
I sent you that PM because I don't think you should be here telling people to give up when they are here asking for advice and I didn't want to say it in public.
I have no reason to put you on ignore, I'm more than happy to tell people to not listen to pessimism because that's not how you make your life better.
Not everyone is interested in dating anymore & that doesn't make a person unworthy in life , if you approach a girl and she isn't interested then just forget her, simple as that.
If a girl isn't open to a guy talking to her, then do you even want to be with someone like that? Just because a girl takes you up on an offer to go out, doesn't mean she's putting out on the first night or that she's a ****, just means she finds you to be an interesting guy and she's not a boring person.
Good point
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
It all depends on how you do it. Like the man said, be nonchalant. Casual, light.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You'll get rejected, everyone does. If you do nothing, you'll never get anywhere, anyway. If you try, you'll get somewhere eventually. The thing is to not invest every little encounter with the weight of your self-esteem. Just practice chatting with everyone, male, female, old, young. It'll become second nature. You can practice with random people. When you get comfortable with it, extend that practice to women in your age-range. When it becomes second-nature, it won't feel so much like rejection, because your self-image won't depend on the outcome of each little momentary friendly overture.
Not a bad idea. I'm in a medium sized city so this is definitely possible.
I think if I've learned anything from this thread, different women react differently -- some may find it off-putting while others may find it perfectly fine.
Like guys on this forum, the women who post here vary in age range and relationship interests. Some remind me of my single elder aunt Ethel, others are jaded over 35 types, and a handful are married/in a serious relationship that are trying to be helpful. Your lucky if you get the cute single 20-35 types who you really want answers from because they are on match,com and other dating online sites, if not actually fielding men via text, emails, calls, and live dating. Yep, no time for virtual reality for them ...
These forums are good information sources, but you have to adjust it to your reality, i.e., don't accept your online feedback like its private coaching.
I bet he would want good-looking girls, too. It's not all about wants in this world... There's reality.
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, if you approach a girl and she isn't interested then just forget her, simple as that.
