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One time I went out with a date with a girl...actually, we didn't really click that much, a few awkward silences, not too much in common...anyway, we went to a restaurant and ordered a meal each with the unspoken understanding we'd pay for our own meal. To my consternation I forget to bring cash...actually I forget the specifics, but I think it was cash only for some reason so she had to pay for both of us. Actually I did have my card on me so I offered to go to an ATM to pay her back but she said it was alright.
Anyway before we parted I asked if she wanted to meet again. She said yes. I didn't especially feel the date went that well, but thought what the hey, see if she wants to give it another go...anyway, after that she was uncontactable. Messaged/called a few times but nothing so I figured chances are she didn't want to see me again, which is fine.
Anyway, I do wonder if the forgetting to bring money thing had anything to do with it. EVEN THEN there's a good chance she just wouldn't be interested. We met on a dating site, so it's not like her options were limited. It was no skin off mine either.
But let's say: your date forgets to bring his wallet...Are there women out there who would totally write off the guy? Unless he was exception? Or is it a forgivable 'sin' in the dating game?
I ask this because I told this story to one of my friends, who said what I suspected, that that might've ruined things...Funnily enough she was an Accountant (which showed we were totally NOT compatible)! lol
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Originally Posted by findly185
I would not write a guy off for forgetting his wallet...money isn't an issue with me...but forgetfulness drives me absolutely INSANE!!
No genuinely forgetting one time I think should be forgivable. I tend to be a bit forgetful in general - I hope this isn't looked upon too harshly. It got me into a bit of hot water at work. But yeah, it did teach me a lesson: to check I have enough to pay before every date. Well I haven't had a date in about two years now anyway...
It's more the lack of thought/organization that bothers me.
On a first date, you are pulling out all the stops to put your best foot forward.
If your best foot can't even manage a simple thing like how to pay for food, it doesn't bode well for the future, when you're not trying as hard.
It's more the lack of thought/organization that bothers me.
On a first date, you are pulling out all the stops to put your best foot forward.
If your best foot can't even manage a simple thing like how to pay for food, it doesn't bode well for the future, when you're not trying as hard.
I agree.
For me it wouldn't be the money issue, but the fact that you didn't bother to prepare for a date.
Aside from that, if it was the first time I met you and I had no idea what kind of person you were, I'd assume you were just a weasel playing games to get a free meal. If we had already been on a few dates and I knew you had the means to cover your share on those occasions, I wouldn't be as skeptical.
It's more the lack of thought/organization that bothers me.
On a first date, you are pulling out all the stops to put your best foot forward.
If your best foot can't even manage a simple thing like how to pay for food, it doesn't bode well for the future, when you're not trying as hard.
This X 100. A first date should be when you are at your absolute best. Also, how do you not feel "naked" without your wallet?
I would have waited at the table for you to go to the ATM and hope you came back........LOL
Honestly, the money thing is not an issue with me overall especially if the place is cash only simply because I very rarely have cash with me. Wait and see if she contacts you at some point, life happens you know and she may have had a family emergency or some other situation she has to deal with at the moment.
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Originally Posted by CSD610
I would have waited at the table for you to go to the ATM and hope you came back........LOL
Honestly, the money thing is not an issue with me overall especially if the place is cash only simply because I very rarely have cash with me. Wait and see if she contacts you at some point, life happens you know and she may have had a family emergency or some other situation she has to deal with at the moment.
Nah it's okay, I'm not really that interested. But yeah I do wonder how much she put into it.
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