Childless single folks: Would you date a single Mom/single Dad?

[LexWest]

Originally Posted by Doll Eyes

so if a woman can attract any old scum of the earth -- she's desirable and attractive in general? because that's what it sounds like you're saying.

The point I'm making is that, these women are (still) attractive. They attract men in general because they are attractive, and unfortunately ended up having children with losers. Do you think a guy would pursue and date a (and have sex with) a women he thought was ugly? Even after having a child (or two, three, or four), these women still take care of themselves, and are still attractive enough that better men still date/marry them afterward.

[LexWest]

Originally Posted by robertpolyglot

Those are "sycophants" and Mama's boys types. I worked with a guy like that. He married a woman with her own consulting business and her previous marriage fell apart because she had married someone who wore at least one of the pant legs. That was it. Period. She had a strong personality, and so did husband #1.

The guy I knew and that she married was a total doormat. In fact, he went to lunch with some guys from another consultant/client and he came back complaining "you should have seen how they were talking about women." Mind you, these guys talking like that were married men. I don't think "locker room" talk was within the capabilities of my co-worker. Well, now it works. Consultant wife goes up to run her company and this co-worker is now a SAH Dad, raising both his new daughter with her and her daughter, with a learning disorder, from the failed marriage.

Meh, everyone has different experiences, but despite what people keep claiming about single mothers being at a disadvantage, it hasn't been true most of the time with many of the single/remarried parents I have met and personally know.

[sunkisses87]

Originally Posted by LexWest

Meh, everyone has different experiences, but despite what people keep claiming about single mothers being at a disadvantage, it hasn't been true most of the time with many of the single/remarried parents I have met and personally know.

Same here. Many of the single mom's I know and have talked about in this thread, have not had issue meeting men, have not had to settle for men that were not in their league, and many have LTR, get remarried, and even have more children down the road. Now of course, many of them will also admit that they did run into men who did not accept their children or that did not want to date them because they were single moms, however that did not stop them from meeting men(with AND without children) that DID want to date them.
I do think single mom's CAN be at disadvantage in many cases, however despite these disadvantages, most have no problem getting remarried, dating and so on. I think that for every man in here that said they did not want to date single mom's, there are several men out there(childless too) that would date a single mom and do.

[Rhenzanite]

Originally Posted by LexWest

Meh, everyone has different experiences, but despite what people keep claiming about single mothers being at a disadvantage, it hasn't been true most of the time with many of the single/remarried parents I have met and personally know.

Yep. Just a few days ago a girl I went to High School with just announced her second engagement (which will be her second marriage) and that she's pregnant with her fourth child and she's only 28. She has never had any problems getting men, and these men are successful and good looking. She's also manipulative, kinda crazy and just plain mean... I guess it's the two giant marijuana leaves she has tattooed right below her ass on her thighs that just brings the guys in.

I know plenty of single moms that have no issues dating, and in fact are more successful than the single with no children women I know. The single Mom's I know have been WAAAAY more successful with dating than I ever have, and I have almost no 'baggage' to speak of.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by robertpolyglot

Closed poll, ok!

If you are a childless single male or female, would you date/consider a serious relationship with a single Mom or single Dad, respectively?

I don't think I would. Their children, from another source, seem to be "numero uno" in their lives. With single childless women, this source of potential friction doesn't exist. If you go on to have your own children, that's fine, though that doesn't interest me. I might be "somewhat" open to it if she was a widow, but I'd have to look at the whole scenario carefully.

Just answer the question/take the poll and provide your own reasons. Though I'm sure I'll get a "talkin' to."

I didn't vote. But I will reaffirm what you state above. Yes, my child is absolutely "numero uno" in my life. And my BF knows it, and is completely at ease with that. It doesn't mean that my BF never gets put first...he certainly does - very often in fact. But if my kid needs me, I mean, really needs me - he will definitely take priority over everything else. This was true even when I was married, and my ex-husband would say the same. Kids, when they need you, you go. That's what parenting is all about. It doesn't mean that everything else always takes second place. Priorities shift all the time, based on need.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by 2mares

Wow. Talke about repetitive posts and lack of new topics.

Yeah I'm pretty sure we've ridden this train before.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by robertpolyglot

That's a good one. I'll remember that one. As I've probably posted before, my adage is "for single moms, there are single dads."

There is just NO way that I could care about someone else's kids, and provide for them, if their dad is alive. That society feels that men ought to "step up to the plate" is ludicrous. I've found that I generally don't see eye to eye with childless male co-workers and acquaintances who have done this, and it spans across other issues as well. Their whole "style" is very foreign to mine.

I'm not quite sure what you mean by that. Who is saying that you need to "step up"...is there some new push to get childless men to marry single mothers??

[cjawalt]

Originally Posted by Ascension2012

I would definitely consider it, I think it really depends on the person. I just dated a girl recently, who has a 3 yo kid, and the kid wouldnt be a problem at all, but turns out mom dates 3 different dudes a week and introduces each and every one of them to her little girl. This tells me all I need to know that im not interested in dating this woman. Obviously its not because she's a single mom, but because her behavior shows how incredibly irresponsible she is in that regard. She is smoking hot btw, but definitely not a relationship material.

She was shopping for a husband. . .

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by robertpolyglot

That's a good one. I'll remember that one. As I've probably posted before, my adage is "for single moms, there are single dads."

I agree with you here. If I wound up "single", I wouldn't even entertain dating a man who didn't have children. It just wouldn't work for me.

Moderator cut: post was deleted