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Old 05-21-2012, 10:20 AM
 
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I met a guy a couple months ago. He is nice but Im not dying to rip his clothes off or anything. Im concerned (on another note) because Im 38 and wondering if I will feel that way again. Had a bad break up recently. Anyways , to be honest , I'd rather not get all "date ready" , Id rather be home on cd! I specifically hesitate with him because I have a couple of other options who I am more attracted to. This guy hasn't asked me out for a month because of school , mainly , he said. I figure if he was into me , his job , school , and his son besides the fact , he would have wanted to see me sooner. This is a turn off , too. But I am not getting any younger. Im just curious your thoughts. He's asked me 3 times , I have not said yes or no. Also , previous dates have been platonic , we hugged 2nd date (I think we are both slow moving) thank you
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Old 05-21-2012, 10:21 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I think the only one who can answer that is you
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Old 05-21-2012, 10:26 AM
 
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I met a guy a couple months ago. He is nice but Im not dying to rip his clothes off or anything. Im concerned (on another note) because Im 38 and wondering if I will feel that way again. Had a bad break up recently. Anyways , to be honest , I'd rather not get all "date ready" , Id rather be home on cd! I specifically hesitate with him because I have a couple of other options who I am more attracted to. This guy hasn't asked me out for a month because of school , mainly , he said. I figure if he was into me , his job , school , and his son besides the fact , he would have wanted to see me sooner. This is a turn off , too. But I am not getting any younger. Im just curious your thoughts. He's asked me 3 times , I have not said yes or no. Also , previous dates have been platonic , we hugged 2nd date (I think we are both slow moving) thank you
Actually, I think because you would rather be home on the computer you need to really push yourself to get out

The path of least resistance is just now always the best course.

Take a chance, give the guy a break and say yes
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Old 05-21-2012, 10:44 AM
 
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I met a guy a couple months ago. He is nice but Im not dying to rip his clothes off or anything.

I specifically hesitate with him because I have a couple of other options who I am more attracted to.
This right here pretty much explains most of men's problems with women and women's problems with men.
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Old 05-21-2012, 10:48 AM
 
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I met a guy a couple months ago. He is nice but Im not dying to rip his clothes off or anything. Im concerned (on another note) because Im 38 and wondering if I will feel that way again. Had a bad break up recently. Anyways , to be honest , I'd rather not get all "date ready" , Id rather be home on cd! I specifically hesitate with him because I have a couple of other options who I am more attracted to. This guy hasn't asked me out for a month because of school , mainly , he said. I figure if he was into me , his job , school , and his son besides the fact , he would have wanted to see me sooner. This is a turn off , too. But I am not getting any younger. Im just curious your thoughts. He's asked me 3 times , I have not said yes or no. Also , previous dates have been platonic , we hugged 2nd date (I think we are both slow moving) thank you
If you truly want a frustrating relationship with a guy you're not attracted to, then go out with him.

If you want the real thing, keep searching.
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Old 05-21-2012, 10:49 AM
 
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This right here pretty much explains most of men's problems with women and women's problems with men.
Your posts are as confusing as mine. What???? Shouldn't there be some attraction? I also really want to take a break from dating . . .
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Old 05-21-2012, 10:50 AM
 
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Or are you commenting on the other two guys Ive gone out with? ^^^^^^^^
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Old 05-21-2012, 10:51 AM
 
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This guy sounds like he's batting 3rd string. I wouldn't bother wasting his time or yours, for that matter.

You shouldn't be that ambivalent about seeing someone... JMHO of course.
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Old 05-21-2012, 10:52 AM
 
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If you truly want a frustrating relationship with a guy you're not attracted to, then go out with him.

If you want the real thing, keep searching.
Kind of what Im thinking , what's the point?
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Old 05-21-2012, 10:52 AM
 
Location: Long Island, NY
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I met a guy a couple months ago. He is nice but Im not dying to rip his clothes off or anything. Im concerned (on another note) because Im 38 and wondering if I will feel that way again. Had a bad break up recently. Anyways , to be honest , I'd rather not get all "date ready" , Id rather be home on cd! I specifically hesitate with him because I have a couple of other options who I am more attracted to. This guy hasn't asked me out for a month because of school , mainly , he said. I figure if he was into me , his job , school , and his son besides the fact , he would have wanted to see me sooner. This is a turn off , too. But I am not getting any younger. Im just curious your thoughts. He's asked me 3 times , I have not said yes or no. Also , previous dates have been platonic , we hugged 2nd date (I think we are both slow moving) thank you


He's just not that into you and you really don't sound like you're into him. Why are you leading him on? He asked you out 3 times and you haven't given him an answer? IMO, he's wasting his time waiting around for you to give him an answer which is probably why it's been a month since he asked you out. Sounds very immature of you. I think you should reach out to one of your other options.
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