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Exactly....- Friends or More than Friends..._ No one likes being stood up. I mean if you legitimately ask a person out and tell them the time/place that you are going to meet them at....and then they dont show....- Yes I have a right to be upset.
Ok...Heres the skinny. Was supposed to meet a "so-called" friend last night for drinks after work. Waited for him to text to know where to meet up...he never did...Since he never texted, I texted him to ask whether or not we were still on ?..No response. This morning I get up and text...."So about last night?" - He tells me that he fell asleep on couch...- I go with it and say ok..but I dont believe him... But anyway he's on the defense about everything that I asked about last night....And then I ask him about his plans for today in which his responses seem a little defensive/rude/and hostile.....I question him. - I say whats up with the rudeness and being insensitive...He responds...Look..Have a lot going on...TTYL.
My response to him was "You make it hard to remain friends and it's obvious you dont respect me or my time. Im still your friend, but i wont' be treated rudely or insensitive....."
My question is was "Was that a little bit over the top or should I have came a little stronger in the way that I feel about the situation?
The fact that you were waiting around for him to text makes you sound a little needy. You should NOT have texted him but instead just gone about your life and assumed that something came up or that he fell asleep on the couch or simply changed his mind. Yes, I know it was his idea to begin with, but people are allowed to change their mind. He would have been courteous to get in touch with you, so he has bad manners, but most likely he felt that if he did change his mind he would have to deal with you getting bent out of shape, which is exactly what happened.
Exactly....- Friends or More than Friends..._ No one likes being stood up. I mean if you legitimately ask a person out and tell them the time/place that you are going to meet them at....and then they dont show....- Yes I have a right to be upset.
Yes but 20yearsinBranson is also correct that you should not have gave him **** about it. If you expect better treatment from your friends, you just have to stop hanging around him because he has bad manners. People don't change.
The WTF factor is.... why text AFTER being stood up?!!! You know my PERFECT solution NOT to be stood up?!! I tell the guy if I don't hear from him, at least an hour before the meet, I will presume it is cancelled!
also the solution is not rocket science you have a phone, he has a phone - CALL BEFORE you go to the meeting place to confirm. End of story.
I didnt exactly "go off" on the fella...I just let him know that I wouldnt be treated any kind of way.....Totally get it when things come up..but all I ask is just let me know when things come up instead of leaving me wondering and guessing about situations. I mean if I invite someone out and pick and time and place and then If something comes up with me...I will him or her the common courtesy of a notification.
This is a guy who a month ago...we agreed to see meet out and when I went to the place he had suggested...I learned he had called a taxi because he had gotten too plastered before I had arrived. - While I understand the circumstances..at least call or text me that you've left before I arrive.
I'd tell you to go play in traffic if you talked to me that way.
I didnt exactly "go off" on the fella...I just let him know that I wouldnt be treated any kind of way.....Totally get it when things come up..but all I ask is just let me know when things come up instead of leaving me wondering and guessing about situations. I mean if I invite someone out and pick and time and place and then If something comes up with me...I will him or her the common courtesy of a notification.
Yes you will. This is the second time you've shown up and he either left before you got there, or didn't bother to come.
Friend, or date, if I fell asleep and no-showed the next thing from me would be a call with a massive apology, a way to make it up, and begging for forgiveness.
If a date did that, without leading with a HUGE apology... there would be no discussion.. I just would right him off completely.
Of course Its a prospect. Otherwise why care so much
it makes no difference either way...if I were him, i'd run, this whole situation sounds like a mess anyway
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