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That's sad to know. So, does this potentially come down to that she may feel what she feels now because what she is "paying attention to" in public is the men are making comments/compliments toward lighter skinned females - and it gets under her skin because that is where she wishes to be? There has to be more to her bitterness than what she's expressed here.
Being around BM you have to tolerate a lot of abuse from them about being darkskinned and not mixed looking. It's very tough.
My experience has been different and I find women who are inclined to behave based on looks as bad or worse than men.
Uh-oh -- NOW what? Am I right and you're wrong? Are you right and I'm wrong? Or might it be a larger puzzle?
ConSARN this infernal attempt at reason! DARN it all! Just DARN it!
Actually... I tend to agree with her in general. I've nearly always worked in all male, or nearly all male situations and tend to get along better with men. I have NEVER heard any of my female friends talk as horribly as the average men did in those places. While I never cried at work (That would have been career suicide) I had a lot of body issues to work through in my early 20s because of the men I worked around. And most of them were college educated older men, not teens.
From my experiences, women will say something positive if they come across a man who is good looking or has nice attributes. If the guy isn't attractive they just ignore it and move on. Now, if a guy see's a good looking woman they make a big deal about it, and if they see an unattractive woman they like to make fun of her and tear her down.
I'm definitely not saying all men are like this by any means, and it's completely anecdotal, but it's simply what I've experienced thus far in my life.
Actually... I tend to agree with her in general. I've nearly always worked in all male, or nearly all male situations and tend to get along better with men. I have NEVER heard any of my female friends talk as horribly as the average men did in those places. While I never cried at work (That would have been career suicide) I had a lot of body issues to work through in my early 20s because of the men I worked around. And most of them were college educated older men, not teens.
From my experiences, women will say something positive if they come across a man who is good looking or has nice attributes. If the guy isn't attractive they just ignore it and move on. Now, if a guy see's a good looking woman they make a big deal about it, and if they see an unattractive woman they like to make fun of her and tear her down.
I'm definitely not saying all men are like this by any means, and it's completely anecdotal, but it's simply what I've experienced thus far in my life.
I actually agree with this and it's one of the good points of women.
While both are equally shallow if not women more so (another topic) women will rarely if ever demean a man based on his physical appearance to create humor. At least in front of his face.
Guys do that all the time. Mostly younger and immature guys. But still.
Actually... I tend to agree with her in general. I've nearly always worked in all male, or nearly all male situations and tend to get along better with men. I have NEVER heard any of my female friends talk as horribly as the average men did in those places. While I never cried at work (That would have been career suicide) I had a lot of body issues to work through in my early 20s because of the men I worked around. And most of them were college educated older men, not teens.
From my experiences, women will say something positive if they come across a man who is good looking or has nice attributes. If the guy isn't attractive they just ignore it and move on. Now, if a guy see's a good looking woman they make a big deal about it, and if they see an unattractive woman they like to make fun of her and tear her down.
I'm definitely not saying all men are like this by any means, and it's completely anecdotal, but it's simply what I've experienced thus far in my life.
This is what I don't like about men. Also, they value a woman's worth on how she looks, like if she isn't pretty enough to their standards than you are supposed to be used as a doorknob
My experience has been different and I find women who are inclined to behave based on looks as bad or worse than men.
This is what I've seen. It's ok for a woman to be biotchy to someone who doesn't meet her "standard." No one will call her on it. If a guy treats an unattractive woman this way, he will hear about it...from women AND other men.
What most guys do is AVOID and NOT encourage women they don't find attractive, so they won't have to give out vibes or feedback of ANY kind.
Being around BM you have to tolerate a lot of abuse from them about being darkskinned and not mixed looking. It's very tough.
Sweetness, you are hanging around the wrong men. I have long dreads, and do not look like I'm mixed with anything. I have never been "abused" about it. I have seen more ignorant comments online than in real life.
I don't like the choices for the poll so I didn't pick either one, too limited....anyways, I have never met a woman nor a man that didn't care at all about someone else's looks. The only women I can imagine would feel this way are very desperate for a man in their lives, would do anything to have one, etc. Personally, I don't find it flattering when all the male care about is the woman looks and also don't find it flattering when they say "Oh, I don't care how the woman looks, I'll take anything." Neither is a compliment to her.
I agree, the choices are not answers that any classy woman would choose in the first place. Go f@ck yourself??? Come on now? Are we lead to believe that the op only knows uneducated women that can not find more appropriate words to toss out there?
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