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View Poll Results: What would you do?
Try him out 20 50.00%
No thanks 20 50.00%
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Old 05-30-2012, 06:26 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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And say you found him cute or appealing...I guess most woman don't approach, ever, but saying you're the approaching type, and his friend tells you he NEVER approaches women.

Would you be the one to get him out of his shell, or are men like that too timid for you to even consider?

It seems there are a lot of overtly shy/timid men these days. Or if they're not, they're TOO forward about it. There are also more bold women, it seems.
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Old 05-30-2012, 08:14 AM
 
Location: US
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I never really was one to sit around and wait for the guy. If I saw someone I liked and they were not dating anyone I pounced. LOL

I love that look on a shy guy's face when you just grab them and kiss them.

In talking about it later I asked why they didn't first. They said they thought that I would reject them or be a ***** about rejecting them. Someone like me would never like them etc.

Shy guys are sweet.
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Old 05-30-2012, 08:20 AM
 
Location: U.S.A.
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Would you be the one to get him out of his shell, or are men like that too timid for you to even consider?
If the guy doesn't feel comfortable enough with me to ease out of that shell a bit on his own, I'm not gonna rush him. But if I we are both obviously feelin eachother, I'll do my best to hang in there. lol
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Old 05-30-2012, 08:28 AM
 
Location: NY
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I didn't answer the pole (I am a guy), but thought I would add that my wife approached me first, and made the first move with a kiss when we first started dating.
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Old 05-30-2012, 08:33 AM
 
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Being reserved and shy are two different elements. Quite frankly, I don't mind a woman approaching me, as long as she's not too overly aggressive.
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Old 05-30-2012, 11:26 AM
 
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And say you found him cute or appealing...I guess most woman don't approach, ever, but saying you're the approaching type, and his friend tells you he NEVER approaches women.

Would you be the one to get him out of his shell, or are men like that too timid for you to even consider?

It seems there are a lot of overtly shy/timid men these days. Or if they're not, they're TOO forward about it. There are also more bold women, it seems.
I don't think he has to approach you. I think you could make yourself available.

In that I mean be by him. Let him strike up a conversation to you. You stood by him and he has an opportunity.

Alot of good men are not going to chase you down and ask you out. It just doesn't work that way. The players have no problem doing that if that is the kind of guy you are interested in.
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Old 05-30-2012, 11:26 AM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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I wouldn't mind a shy guy who needs me to make the first move. As long as he isn't shy when we get to know each other and he's not some weird hermit who is afraid to leave the house or meet any of my friends or family. I'm not shy, but I can be reserved especially around a lot of new people. Not everyone feels the need to be the center of attention or hear the sound of their own voice every minute. I can definitely appreciate a more reserved guy.
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Old 05-30-2012, 11:31 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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the most i would probably be willing to do would be talk to him and that's only if he showed some interest (yea right). most of these type men don't even show slightest bit of interest so i guess women are going to continue to escape them, shame as it is.
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Old 05-30-2012, 06:34 PM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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I don't think he has to approach you. I think you could make yourself available.

In that I mean be by him. Let him strike up a conversation to you. You stood by him and he has an opportunity.

Alot of good men are not going to chase you down and ask you out. It just doesn't work that way. The players have no problem doing that if that is the kind of guy you are interested in.
What do you mean 'be by him?' By be 'available', do you mean go separate yourself off from your girlfriends, sit by the bar by yourself, and maybe show a bit more skin?

I'm a guy, btw, on the shy side, I've tried striking up convos with girls a few times but it never led to anything. I've never really been 'approached', a few ladies will strike up conversations but usually just friendly. But then again don't most of those things just start off as friendly? Especially at parties when it's just mingling. I've had good feelings about women, but why can't it ever progress so we really get to know each other? Maybe the fact I go to so few, and haven't really asked for a number or anything.
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Old 05-30-2012, 06:36 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Neither. how would I know he is interested if he doesn't approach? D'oh!
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