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Do you really wanna have kids at 40 when you're too old and tired to keep up with them and enjoy them? And for me personally, I like having a partner. I'm not perfect and neither is she, but helping each other through the challenges of life means we're both more successful because we have different strengths. Two heads, and sets of hands, are better than one. She's not a parasite, she's a partner, and frankly not having to put in the significant effort of dating and getting laid anyways means I've got more time and energy to put into becoming successful. It's not about religion either, I'm an atheist from a society where formal marriage is actually rarer than just living together. But having a partner who helps you and that you can rely on is a wonderful asset and a very fulfilling life experience.
You know, Im such a weirdo. I absolutely hate conformity and social norms imposed by others. If i look at a person, I do it from an angle which is open minded and with full understanding that this persons shoes are alot different from my own. Who am I to judge their choices in life that only impact their own level of happiness. Seems like vast majority of people in this sheepish society, are often trying to create some absurd rules that equate to a tidy little box that everything fits into perfectly. I cant decide if its the way that people need to organize their belief system for it to make sense, or they simply get an ego boost by putting someone else down, who may be walking a different path. Little more understanding, compassion and open mindedness would go along way today.
I understand that not every guy is the same and that many want to start a family and settle down, but I just can't understand why a guy wouldn't want to test out all there is on the open market (at least for a good 3-5 years or so) before calling it quits.
I mean, look at what's out here: we have white chicks, black chicks, Asian chicks, mixed chicks, Latin chicks, Indian chicks, blondes, brunettes, redheads, tall chicks, short chicks, skinny chicks, athletic chicks, muscle chicks, BBWs, cougars, college-aged chicks, bisexual chicks, etc. That's just too much goodness to turn down, especially when it's actually available to you which is why I don't understand some of these guys who throw in the towel just when things are about to get good.
It just seems unnatural for a guy to not be interested in spreading his wings a bit before settling down.
When you already have the most wonderful lady & best friend (in your mind), how can you do any better then that?......
You know, Im such a weirdo. I absolutely hate conformity and social norms imposed by others. If i look at a person, I do it from an angle which is open minded and with full understanding that this persons shoes are alot different from my own. Who am I to judge their choices in life that only impact their own level of happiness. Seems like vast majority of people in this sheepish society, are often trying to create some absurd rules that equate to a tidy little box that everything fits into perfectly. I cant decide if its the way that people need to organize their belief system for it to make sense, or they simply get an ego boost by putting someone else down, who may be walking a different path. Little more understanding, compassion and open mindedness would go along way today.
It is fine for you to follow whatever path you like.
Not sure what point you are arguing exactly, but the OP is the one judging others for following a certain path. He can do what he likes, but why be so bothered about what his male counterparts are doing?
It is fine for you to follow whatever path you like.
Not sure what point you are arguing exactly, but the OP is the one judging others for following a certain path. He can do what he likes, but why be so bothered about what his male counterparts are doing?
Im just making on observation, based on what Ive read in this thread. Not everything fits into what you perceive to be the norm and it isnt automaticaly wrong for being that way. I guess what Im saying is that I wish people in general were little more open minded.
Im just making on observation, based on what Ive read in this thread. Not everything fits into what you perceive to be the norm and it isnt automaticaly wrong for being that way. I guess what Im saying is that I wish people in general were little more open minded.
Are you talking about the OP when you are talking about being open minded?
Again, people should pursue what makes them happy. It isn't at all open minded though to start a thread like this.
You've got to understand something about some guys, they don't tolerate people (especially other men) who have a different opinions from themselves and don't see the world the way they do. Some guys think that every man should be out there banging every chick they find and never get tied down hence this thread. And if another man does not share their viewpoint of life than he is less of a man in their eyes (a beta). Some guys really don't find the life of a player appealing and would rather be in a committed relationship with one woman than juggle 5 at a time. But you will never convince them of this. It will be like talking to a brick wall.
Funny, I'm seeing this same mindset coming from the opposite (married) point of view in this thread as well. Call out both sides' hypocrisy, not just one.
Btw, I agree with your points about some of these type of bachelors' intolerance towards married men's decisions, even though I have no problem with people playing the field (as long as they are honest about it). But I'm seeing the same intolerance coming from married folks who think their way is the only way, and the other side is creepy or in need of therapy. One could make the same absurd argument about married folks based on divorce stats, pitfalls, and potential devastation.
Sorry, neither side is inherently better than the other. Both have pros and cons, which choice is better depends on the person who is analyzing it.
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Funny, I'm seeing this same mindset coming from the opposite (married) point of view in this thread as well. Call out both sides' hypocrisy, not just one.
Btw, I agree with your points about some of these type of bachelors' intolerance towards married men's decisions, even though I have no problem with people playing the field (as long as they are honest about it). But I'm seeing the same intolerance coming from married folks who think their way is the only way, and the other side is creepy or in need of therapy. One could make the same absurd argument about married folks based on divorce stats, pitfalls, and potential devastation.
Sorry, neither side is inherently better than the other. Both have pros and cons, which choice is better depends on the person who is analyzing it.
Freedom, please link all the threads started by married men attempting to degrade single men for not marrying and having children.
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