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Invite her to pay for the upgrade...it could be the matter-of-fact way that you wrote it but she sounds ungrateful.
Agree 100%. If someone is offering to take you on vacation with them, and pick up the tab, they should be grateful enough to say thank you and go with the plan with zero complaints. If they have complaints, they should not go. Sheesh !!! When you're on a cruise, you don't even spend that much time in the room -
You mention you like her company, but is it you love her, or she's more of a companion for the trip? If that's the case I'd say, "If you don't want to go, that's fine" and I'd invite a single friend. Hell! I work FT, go to college PT, and haven't been on a vacation in the past 2 years, and it will be at least another 3 years before I can go on vacation, or afford to. I'll go, and trust me, I'll be very grateful ...
I think sitting down and talking about one's feelings has to be the most overrated move in the history of relationships.
In a situation like this, you don't talk about your feelings. You simply say, "Really? REALLY? I manage to scrimp and save to do something nice for the both of us and you nitpick the accommodations? Fine. We won't go at all. I'm canceling the trip."
I still think it has a bit to do with the approach. If a guy I was dating said, "grab your coat--I'm taking you out to dinner!" and then he proceeds to drive us to McDonalds, I don't think being a bit disappointed is necessarily being ungrateful. Had he said, "let's go get a burger," I'd know better what to expect.
oh please dont even compare paying for a cruise to paying for mcdonalds
Say you are deciding to go on a cruise vacation and want to take your girlfriend... she cannot afford it but you figure you will take her along since you do like her company. However, since now you are going to absorb the cost of 2 instead of one, to save money you opt for the less expensive inside room (no windows), you figure it's a good compromise.
You announce the surprise vacation to your GF, she is happy but not too thrilled about the inside room and complains about it...says you should go for the more expensive window rooms since she knows you can afford it.
How would you feel about it?
You have been dropping the "hypothetical" scenarios, makes me wonder if these are real situations or if you are just trying to feel things out. Or perhaps you are just curious.
I've been there, done that, and felt like a sucker in the end.
But, you wrote that she is happy about the cruise, which does show some appreciation. Without being there, or knowing her, it is impossible to tell if her reaction was just a temporary let down due to built up anticipation, or if she was showing some sort of real animosity towards the windowless room.
oh please dont even compare paying for a cruise to paying for mcdonalds
So the GF should automatically like the cruise? It was a surprise, was it not? Look, if you are going to surprise someone with a big ticket item, you better damn well be sure that you know it will be appreciated or you better be willing to accept, and deal with, the let down.
So the GF should automatically like the cruise? It was a surprise, was it not? Look, if you are going to surprise someone with a big ticket item, you better damn well be sure that you know it will be appreciated or you better be willing to accept, and deal with, the let down.
No one forced the OP to do it.
She doesn't have to like it but she has to act like she does. It is an invitation to a free all expenses paid vacation for God sakes. If you don't like it find an excuse not to go but don't criticize it and say that it isn't enough or up to your standards. That is being unappreciative and rude especially when she can't afford any cruise to begin with. Thats like getting a Porsche as a gift and complaining that it isn't a turbo.
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