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I think a big problem is many people today have no reference of what a marriage or what a family life should consist of because divorce is the norm. A boy can't learn what it is to be a husband from his mother and a girl can't learn what it is to be a wife from a man.
Something I found odd was I heard in the Asian community there is a rift between the men and women. Yes I know there are Asian Americans but i'm sure most people understand what I was trying to say..
Rift between men and women in 'Asian community' ???
ummmm........ not sure what 'community' you are talking about. Are you referring to 'westernized' Asians in general? Not all Asian cultures are alike.
However, you do make a valid point regarding kids from divorced parents.
I think a big problem is many people today have no reference of what a marriage or what a family life should consist of because divorce is the norm. A boy can't learn what it is to be a husband from his mother and a girl can't learn what it is to be a wife from a man.
Something I found odd was I heard in the Asian community there is a rift between the men and women. Yes I know there are Asian Americans but i'm sure most people understand what I was trying to say..
But a parent cant teach you how to be a good wife or a good husband. There is no one recipe for that. If there were we wouldnt need our mothers or fathers to teach it to us. A parent can try to teach you how to be honest, compasionate, faithful, and productive, among other things. We also learn team work and social skills thru life experiences. None of this will guarentee a successful marriage.
I agree that each generation has a different perception of marriage and family life. Who is to say what is good or bad. Its different and seems bad if it is not ones own idea of what it should be.
Rift between men and women in 'Asian community' ???
ummmm........ not sure what 'community' you are talking about. Are you referring to 'westernized' Asians in general? Not all Asian cultures are alike.
However, you do make a valid point regarding kids from divorced parents.
That was my take. Is he talking Japanese, Korean, Cambodian, Indonesian. then if you break it down to local custom and religion it is a varied as the flowers grwoing in the field. Saying "Asian" almost means nothing as a desriptor. It's a very gross generalization at best.
No, you should marry people from your own country. Americans should marry other Americans, Swedes should marry other Swedes and so on. There's too much of a cultural difference and this can be confusing to children.
Lots of my friends have married foreign women. I don't even think about it. It's just kind of the norm. The closest woman I came to marrying was also a foreigner.
American women are tough. Especially Asian American women ... they expect a lot.
Do explain...I consider myself Asian American Woman but am still culturally rooted.
My mom's side of the family has a perfect record - no divorces - including 3 generations. Grandparents, mom and her 3 siblings, and the 8 grandchildren.
All are American. We must really know how to pick 'em!
Wouldn't this lead to more successful relationships? The marriage rate is much lower now than ever among Americans, and for those that do marry each other, the divorce rate is higher than ever. I don't know what the stats are for marital success for American/non-American couples, but judging from the people I know in such relationships it is good. Those in intercultural marriages stay married, while those that are not get divorced. A 50-60% divorce rate within a country is horrible on so many levels.
Hogwash. Pure, utter, hogwash.
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. Saying "Asian" almost means nothing as a desriptor. It's a very gross generalization at best.
Hogwash. Pure, utter, hogwash.
