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Because I thought she was clearly interested. It wasn't like a 1 time, 1 night thing... it happened over the course of a few weeks.
No....you said this:
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2 weeks ago, I met up with her and some of her friends and we hooked up 3 times that night.
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Then, last Friday, we went out with some of her friends and I stayed at her place, we hooked up twice, and left around noon on Saturday.
It just makes me wonder why the number of sex acts recorded during one night is relevant to you. It seems like a weird detail and it makes me wonder what you mean by "hooked up."
Yeah, it is a little hard to explain, but a night of GOOD sex isn't going to be something you quantify using a metric of "number of hookup times." Realistically, all the activity flows together if it is good, or even average. If it is really good, you are not even aware that time is passing or the specifics of what your bodies are actually doing from one moment to another! So it is impossible to describe how many times ANYTHING happened.
I'd need more details to be sure, but it sounds like a classic case of female boredum. However, you MUST comprehend that when a man uses the word "bored" and when a woman uses the same word, "bored" it typically has two entirely different meanings. For a man it means lack of accomplishing, for a woman it means, lack of emotional stimulation, lack of relationship excitement.
The fact that you are counting the number of time that intercourse occurs generally demonstrates the key problem. You are trying to measure the success of the relationship based on how YOU feel about sex, by counting frequency you are measuring based on a male sense of accomplishment.
Unfortunately, most men never grasp that females don't think, operate, or measure sucess by anything that even remotely resembles that evaluation system. You need to learn the protocols of female attraction and how women feel and reason to begin to understand what is going on here.
Candidly, you bored her. Not in the male sense, but in the female sense. For women, sex is not about counting the number of times intercourse occurs, it is about Anticipation, Rush, and Connection. Based on your words above, your relationship became HIGHLY predicatable in a hurry, you'd meet, and then you'd start counting the number of times that intercourse occurred. NO Anticipation, NO Rush, and Little or NO Connection. For Most Men intercourse IS sex, for women it is the finish line.
You need to be deprogrammed if you want to have great relationships with women. That programming is beyond the scope of a quick reply, but hopefully I have given you a couple nuggets to get you started. Go man up, lead, and build allure for her with intruige, mystery, anticipation, teasing, stop leaping right to your finish line, leaving her needs (the non-physical ones) unattended.
We had a "Taco Tuesday" date planned for last night. I hadn't heard much from her on Tuesday, so at 5pm I texted her, "Date night tonight or no?" She wrote back, "Sure! I get home at 7pm."
We ended up getting food and chatting over 3 hours at a restaurant near her house. Things were going great. Never really an awkward moment and I thought we were getting along really well. I walked her to her front door, she kissed me goodnight and went inside.
I texted her later that evening, "You are a fun date! Have a great day tomorrow!" and I never heard anything back...
What the hell is up with this chick? I'm thinking she just wants to keep it super casual?
See, I think this is the most logical conclusion, but people tend to only think about immediate gratification. Wait? To date? Ha!
Drama begets drama, eh~
Yeah, I guess. She wasn't acting bored and I am into it, but I'm not spending another second thinking about this. She can contact me if she wants to hang.
We had a "Taco Tuesday" date planned for last night. I hadn't heard much from her on Tuesday, so at 5pm I texted her, "Date night tonight or no?" She wrote back, "Sure! I get home at 7pm."
We ended up getting food and chatting over 3 hours at a restaurant near her house. Things were going great. Never really an awkward moment and I thought we were getting along really well. I walked her to her front door, she kissed me goodnight and went inside.
I texted her later that evening, "You are a fun date! Have a great day tomorrow!" and I never heard anything back...
What the hell is up with this chick? I'm thinking she just wants to keep it super casual?
It could be that...
OR, possibly she regrets giving it up so soon and now wants you to woo her a bit - to actually date her.
In which case, you need to do the contacting and make a few dates, you know where you have to spend actual money on her.
It looks like she played you, like so many guys on this forum like to do with girls. Get over it and move on. Interesting that the guys don't like it when they get a taste of their own medicine (not that you're that kind of guy, necessarily...)
Ah yes, the bitter old woman has arrived to tell the guy he's getting a taste of the male species medicine that has wronged her in her entire life.
It sounds like you need to get help before you start dating again. Any man wil lbe able to tell how bitter you are and move on.
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A). She had her fun and hooked up with you multiple times and would like to call it quits.
B). She just found out that you still live with your ex.
C). She found someone else to play with.
D). She's just not that into you.
E). All of the above.
F). She's been busy
G). Things are just cooling down, it's only been a few days
H). She just had fun with you and was never really serious in the first place
I). She has some personal things going on that could be occupying her (sick family member, friend needing help, hard time at work, etc.)
J). Good chance that it is nothing that has to do with you.
Try not to think about it, stay busy, hang with friends, and see if she reaches out to you in the next couple days. Maybe she's testing you to see if you're needy. Maybe she's not sure how she feels and is taking a step back (if she realizes she misses you she'll call you).
Trust me, no woman at this stage you're at is worth worrying about. Take it for what it is: You had some fun recently, you aren't in a committed relationship, you aren't going anywhere and neither is she, give her some breathing room, use this time to meet some other girls, and if you both are mutually into each other you'll find a way to reconnect.
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