To leave or to staay

[JosephV55]

Originally Posted by baboor

the prob is I am her closest friend of 3 years

Keyword: friend

Keep that in mind. Unless she is ready to jump off that cliff with you
and engage full on then there is nothing other than friendship there.

[baboor]

Originally Posted by JosephV55

Keyword: friend

Keep that in mind. Unless she is ready to jump off that cliff with you
and engage full on then there is nothing other than friendship there.

Thank you for the reply. Well, I dont know if I mentioned it on this thread but there is something other than friendship there. I mean she told me that she sees me as someone she can see herself with long term that is why she is scared. She told me she has feelings for me. Told her family that she really really likes me. until recently, we have been basically living like couples (although I am not saying we were) doing what couples do. We dont do that anymore. So the issue here is whether those feelings are dying (died) down or is it just we are both in a stressful situation and need time apart, or is she still healing from the past relationship. But, like you said, until she is ready to do that, I should prob leave. (the ironic part is, I am not even sure if i am ready for a relationship, i just want the assurance that I wont get hurt if i open up fully to her in that matter and in life there are no such assurances. So i am just trying these are alarms I should pay attention to and leave, or are these just my attempt to find security in a situation where you only try and see how it goes.

[Frihed89]

Negotiate.

[purehuman]

baboor...I think every thing would probably work itself out and be just fine....if you'd just quit pressuring this young woman and give her some time to think things through...it'd be a shame if you deserted her now, just because she desires that time....take it easy...take it slow....bad enough that you became her lover so soon, you really should have remained a platonic friend for a bit longer...............you would leave to save yourself possible future hurt...how do you think she'll feel when after you've finally bedded her, you now feel it's best for you to leave....I mean wtf....she was your friend before the sex....now she's not??

[Just One of the Guys]

My question is why should this exam stop you two from being intimate? You can still be intimate on occasion and still focuss on studing for the exam. Sounds like she has her own agenda, and part of it is living with you until at least she passes the exam.