BF feels used (dating, boyfriend, marriage, woman)
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Ahhh....the "irony" of today....we go shopping, and my BF has a gift card. He only needs one thing...so...there is $5 left on the card....I immediately tell him all the stuff I need that costs $5....of course, he gives me the card...which I promptly spend. Later I take him out for dinner though....of course, earlier he bought beer...we really have an egalitarian relationship...more or less equal. I don't know how much money he has...or does not have....never has come up...
We are going on several trips this summer, I am paying for my portion. But he will no doubt pay for extra trips and other expenses...he always does. Not even an issue...
I told him about this thread....he laughed...obviously there were more issues in this relationship than $20....
There you go. There are some of us in relationships like this where no gender cards or entitlements are played. It's not about "I paid so it is your turn next time, ok?" it just happens naturally just like your example on your first paragraph. Like I have shared before, a girl took care of my lodging expenses for France, I took care of her's when we went to Morocco. I have tickets for X cultural event and my girl wants to go. After the event she surprises me with a table she reserved for dinner after the event and she treats me dinner. It's no big deal really. This may sound extreme and wrong to Saritaschihuahua if she’s not used to also giving instead of just receiving.
The OP's post had a great deal to do with a relationship with a highly immature, cheap, worthless individual. Why do we continue to discuss this, when she has dumped the loser?
Because you seem hell-bent on using every nasty adjective you can find in the thesaurus about the guy and can't seem to let it go.
There you go. Now we know where your entitlements come from. Parents paying for your school, a man paying for all your expenses, supporting you, putting you through college, etc. Who ties your shoe laces?
Notice how she said "first hubby", meaning, she is at least on the second one now. Her parents paid for school, her "first" hubby paid for everything else, now she is on the second one. No doubt the second one pays for everything too. I'm not surprised she's siding with the OP. Either that, or she is a troll. Either way, good entertainment.
You're very interested in my life! I feel like a movie star! Problem is, my life is not that interesting. Really. Trust me on this. Yours, however, might be. Care to share? I'm bored with the OP's a-h boyfriend and we need a new topic.
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Originally Posted by JazzJackRabbit
Notice how she said "first hubby", meaning, she is at least on the second one now. Her parents paid for school, her "first" hubby paid for everything else, now she is on the second one. No doubt the second one pays for everything too. I'm not surprised she's siding with the OP. Either that, or she is a troll. Either way, good entertainment.
Are we not discussing the dude and his weeping and whining over $20 with the girl he allegedly cares for? Because if we are, he absolutely deserves every nasty adjective.
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Originally Posted by JustJulia
Because you seem hell-bent on using every nasty adjective you can find in the thesaurus about the guy and can't seem to let it go.
This has nothing to do with gender. If the roles were reversed, the same would apply. He's a cheap, materialistic jerk. If the he were a she, she'd be a cheap, materialistic jerk.
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Originally Posted by onihC
There you go. There are some of us in relationships like this where no gender cards or entitlements are played. It's not about "I paid so it is your turn next time, ok?" it just happens naturally just like your example on your first paragraph. Like I have shared before, a girl took care of my lodging expenses for France, I took care of her's when we went to Morocco. I have tickets for X cultural event and my girl wants to go. After the event she surprises me with a table she reserved for dinner after the event and she treats me dinner. It's no big deal really. This may sound extreme and wrong to Saritaschihuahua if she’s not used to also giving instead of just receiving.
Are we not discussing the dude and his weeping and whining over $20 with the girl he allegedly cares for? Because if we are, he absolutely deserves every nasty adjective.
Are we not discussing the OP and her weeping and whining over "forgetting" her wallet and her BF's frustration at that? (nevermind that he funds her entire life except groceries)
Ugh, can we just get a Moderator to close this thread? We've discussed it to death, and the 2 varying opinions will never be reconciled. It's degenerating into utter futility. Just close it already.
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. Parents paying for your school, a man paying for all your expenses, supporting you, putting you through college, etc. Who ties your shoe laces?
